Lying about this trigger warning

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I posted before but name changing

In a LDR. Have been for 2 years, getting married October (he's moving back to my area this month)

I fell pregnant, planned. We told MIL and she told him to get a DNA as the dates didn't add up (they did)

Partner saw the pregnancy test and the first scan (I had 2 due to bleeding and history of loss)

Then last week.

Sadly I lost the baby. Quite horrifically to be honest. I've had miscarriages before several years ago so I was worried it would happen and I shared that worry with MIL who was supportive.

Today she told my partner she thinks I'm lying about the pregnancy. She told him until she sees proof I was pregnant and miscarried then she will believe I'm lying.

I want to show her everything like my scan (I was 8 weeks) and prove my point, then cut her off. I'm angry as hell. My partner said to leave it because I don't have to prove myself to anyone.

AIBU to confront her? She lives in Spain (retired there) so it would be a message that she probably wouldn't even read.

I'm fuming. And hurt.

I was on your other thread.

Do not move, get pregnant or marry this man while his relationship with his mother is like this. No good can come of it. If my DM came out with this batshit nonsense about my DH I would either tell her to stop or I would cut her off, or I would manage it myself and never mention it to DH.

He keeps dragging you in to this horror show. You will be tied to her and her nonsense forever if you don't watch it.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

You don't need to prove yourself. I'm sorry for your loss.

Listen to MrsTerry she talks sense . I'm sorry for you loss.

I'm sorry for your loss.

I would take this as a massive kick up the arse to leave the relationship. You will be entwined with this woman if you get married.

I'm sorry for your loss.

No relationship is worth that for a mother in law.

Honestly I wouldn't bother with her. If you think it would make you feel better send the proof and cut her off, but personally I'd just leave her to it.

I think more of an issue is why is your DO telling you what she is saying? He should be shutting her down himself and not bringing you into her nonesense. He sounds like he is shit stirring and probably enjoying the drama.

I came to be blunt, but MrsTerry has already said what I wanted to say.

Unhitch your waging from this man, he is embroiled in a relationship he needs to sever before he could even begin to commit to you, or anyone.

waging = wagon!

Sympathy on your loss.

While you don't have to prove yourself to anyone, I think you should do whatever you feel like doing. If you feel like confronting her with proof, do it, but be aware that she might still say it could be fabricated. She sounds awful, and nothing you can say or do will change that.

I haven't read your other thread, but it does sound like there are problems with this relationship. I'd think carefully about what you're letting yourself in for with this man. Is he worth it? I wouldn't want to be involved with someone who was on speaking terms with his mother after something like this. It doesn't bode well for your future with him.

I'm sorry for your loss, namechange

This is a big warning as to what any life you have with this man will be like. Even when his mother is no longer around, she raised him.

Thank you so much everyone. I was worried I was being harsh because im so emotional, I'm really struggling with the loss and then she says that of all things! She hasn't once even asked if im ok

From what you've said in this thread, OP, she is the sort to use anything and everything against you, the worse the better as far as she's concerned.

So sorry for your loss. That would be upsetting enough to deal with.

MrsTerryPratchett has said what we all want to say. That he is telling you what his mother says and is not going NC with her for her offensiveness tells you everything about how the rest of your life with him is going to go