To think I should be able to give this money to my child if I want to!

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I was left some money by my nan. I have used it for a few things on our house (jointly owned with DH) like getting our garden done and new carpets, bit of decorating in a few of the rooms, just jobs that really needed doing. I've also booked me and DH a long weekend away in Italy later this year.

I have around £700 left and I want to spend it / give it to our son. I'd like to take him out and let him choose a couple of new toys and then put the rest in his savings so it's like my nan has given him something / maybe paid for driving lessons when he's older or whatever. She'd have liked that idea as she adored him.

My husband thinks we should split it between all the children, our son and his two older sons my step children.

AIBU to say no? My Nan didn't really have much of a relationship with them and I think it should go to our son.

Totally agree. No doubt they will have grandparents from which they could potentially inherit. Buy them an amazon voucher each and the rest away for your son

This

Tell him you'll cancel the break and give the money from his half of the trip to his kids.

Tough. It's your money you do what you want. He can save for all his kids you save for yours. Don't let him use this to get out of saving for your shared DC either. I am in a similar position and am putting aside a small amount for my DSC (I haven't told anyone about this) which I will give them when they move out or go to uni haven't decided which yet. Then a bigger lump sum for my own DC

You've already spent money on the house and your husband has benefited. I don't see why you should spend any money on his children.

If they live with you, I'd but them each a small gift - say £15/£20 - but there again your "D"H demanding you do it, or even expecting it would but me off.
If they don't live with you, so aren't there when your son receives his gift, definitely wouldn't bother.
Does youe DC get a gift every time their mother buys them a gift?

I disagree it should be counted as family pot money. Inheritances are gifts, they belong to the person they were given to.

I suppose if you have a completely communist marriage, where no-one is ever allowed to have sole jurisdiction over any money whatsoever, it might be family pot money. But that kind of rule sounds oppressive to me.

Good idea.

Yanbu

Your child is your gran's direct descendant, and you can do as you please with your/her money.

Your stepchildren have their own relatives.

I’d probably buy them a token gift each (although DH insisting would piss me off and make me less likely to) or maybe pay for a nice day out for all of us somewhere that 9 and 12 year old boys would really like.

Then I’d absolutely put the rest away for your own DS

All of it goes to your son, not your step kids. Would he do the same if his kids got the money? Would your son get some of it? I doubt it. Keep your money, tell him get lost

Oh please do this! I bet he will backpeddle so fast he will end up with Marty!!