This is going to sound completely daft but here goes.
My friend and I have two kids each, mine are 2 & 4, her’s are 1 & 3. My friend constantly talks about my kids are if they are much older than they are. Now of course when kids are that small every few months makes a difference. There’s something odd about it though, she’ll constantly say things like “a two year old is not a baby”, “my kids are such babies, my little one is only 15 months - still a baby” etc. and constantly say “there’s a whole year between them” often out of the blue. I don’t baby my kids, when we go on play dates I’m happy to take a break and let them off so I don’t think anything I do is the cause of it. I can’t really articulate why it bothers me, it feels sometimes when we are chatting that stuff about my kids are dismissed because they are “so old”. I’m very fond of my friend’s kids and happy to chat away about them.
i can’t figure out why my friend constantly says stuff like that or more importantly why it bothers me. Maybe it’s because it feels somewhat competitive or that my kids are sort of automatically dismissed in conversation as less interesting or something because hers are younger. Obviously my friend’s kids are the centre of her world, I get that. Again, it’s such a trivial stupid thing, but it does bother me somewhat.