"Well, X is a carcinogenic for Y (when it's really, really not)"

[Famalamabunfight]

Lighthearted honestly, though a serious subject.....

My MIL came out with this to me tonight just before some quite serious checkup's where my non-carcinogenic related cancer status is just about to be reassessed as there has been a chronic concerning issue (tho so far not cancerous).

Apparently, something I liked to eat could have basically caused my cancer. It couldn't have. It's not a cancer that someone of my profile should have ever got and is certainly not related to what MIL suggested.

I will say I am possibly biased. She never seemed to give much sympathy to me when I was ill (always seemed to imply it wasn't really anything very much TBH) whilst she is somewhat mooning over the illness the girlfriend of my "artist" BIL has in a much more dramatic way as if they had been together forever (they haven't - I have never met her and there are no kids involved).

(Maybe she just hoped that if i wasn't around DH would pay for BIL and BIL's GF's hobby....)

Anyway, AIBU to roll my eyes?

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She sounds like a PITA. Maybe tell your husband that you’d prefer not to have his mother blaming your for causing your own cancer. He can deal with his mother.

That would annoy me on multiple levels. When my dad got cancer, the number of people who asked "did he smoke?" How is that helpful?!

She sounds like a right bitch. The suggestion that you are to blame is annoying. The implication therefore that you don't need sympathy or support is cruel and downright mean.