I’m getting married at the end of August, and quite frankly right now I’d like to just stick my head in the oven!
There’s so much still to do and organise but my main concern is whether to give the mother of the bride position on the top table to my step mum or my actual mother.
For context, over the last few years step mum has been much more of a mother figure in my life than my mum. Parents divorced after her affair and I think a mixture of guilt and a desire to relive her youth has caused her to push us away to some extent. She has very little contact with my younger sister and her child and although I do see her and try to keep her involved in DS’s life, it’s usually at my instigation. If I’m honest I’d rather have my step mum at the top table but I’d hate to upset my mum and push her further away. In a perfect world I’d like this to be an opportunity for us to build some bridges.
Just looking for some honest opinions from people that don’t know my family personally. Maybe we should just run off and get married on a beach with no one else around! 🤦🏻♀️