Am I being unreasonable to expect a little bit of TLC, appreciation or pampering

[Redbush]

Don't expect anybody to be "out there" at this time in the morning but can't sleep and just need to have a rant! Am 34 weeks pregnant with no 2. DD is 20months old and DH got back yesterday from a 5 day skiing trip. Don't have a problem at all with him having gone - actively encouraged it knowing it would be a while before he had opportunity again but feel the reality of what I did over the last 5 days has no meaning to him at all. Granted he got up with DD this am after I had already been in to her once to try to persuade her to stay in bed a bit longer and by which point I was wide awake anyway. Came back in with her 10 mins later to get his stuff and let her come and wake me up again. Got up 30 mins later at which point he packed off to work leaving me with the rest of the previous nights washing up (we have arrangment whoever cooks the other washes up and needless to say I cooked!) First night that he's back and could be home to help out a litte (usually back at 5.30pm) he turns up at gone 6pm - no apology hadn't rung to mention he'd be late and didn't even mention it when I rang him at 4.30pm to let him know I'd just discovered baby is breach and feeling pretty down about it! Consequently I wasn't overly welcoming when he did get in and he's been grumpy all evening saying I'm being horrible to him!!! Makes it worse that he's now sound asleep in bed not a care in the world and I'm awake again after 2 hrs sleep and miserable! OK had my moan having nice cup of tea and hopefully will head back to bed soon - have a 9hr day at work tomorrow!

I think you feel you need a holiday as well? I can sympathise.

My DH was supposed to cook dinner tonight which he rarely does. It gets to 6.00pm -'I forgot. You should have reminded me.' he really meant it.

Hope your baby turns!

aah, red, I know exactly how you feel. am almost 34 weeks, working more than full time (am the main wage earner) and yet this morning on my only day off in a 6 day week got woken up at 7:00 by the light on full blast and a request to iron his **ing shirt, then an accusation of being grumpy when I said no. The house is a tip but because he stacked the dishwasher the other day he thinks he's husband of the bloody year. oh, and he changed jobs to one with more money because of impending baby and doesn't like it and i'm told he's 'doing it for me'. Obviously I planned and conceived this baby all by myself then. Nice cup of tea the only potential sunshine in a very cloudy few days. Off to kick the dog. his stupid dog, incidentally. Ooooh, I feel better already!

YANBU. Does he think that after all that stressful travelling he needs a rest?!?

Hi ladies - almost at the end of my working day but not particularly keen to run home - leaving him to get DD into bed. Thanks for the words of support - in a better place now - also had a chance to moan at a couple of friends at work which always helps doesn't it! Did kick him out of bed at 5am this morning to deal with DD who had woken up early and wanted to play - that helped a little!! Hope you get your dinner tonight chocchipcookie! Sorry Fluffsuptheduff hope the cuppa brightened your morning - it's the bit that we get accused of being grumpy that really gets me! Already planning my revenge - will head off for some fun in about 9 months time and leave him with 2!! Wishing you all a bit of pampering this evening (well we can dream can't we )

YANBU, but some men have that missing gene that is required for this sort of thing.

red, loving the idea of heading off somewhere lovely in a few months time. will hold that in my head