MIL constantly wants to have a say over how many kids DP and I have and it's starting to really annoy me. I don't know how to nicely say it's none of her concern when and how many kids my partner and i decide to have.
We have a DS that turns 6 months soon, and often discuss in about a year having another as not looking to have too much of an age gap between the children. I've plenty times said i've always wanted four kids, whilst DP wants 2 so mentioned previously 3 is middle ground. However she always says "you want another?" and "if you're going to have another then just have two. three is too much" and other throwaway comments like "don't have three kids" and "leave it at two" but not in the jokey way, almost as though we should be listening to what she's saying and i'm absurd for wanting three.
She also seems to mention a lot "don't have one yet, DS needs your full attention now, you've got time." which we're not planning on having another right away, but if we did, it's our decision.
I don't know how to address this because it's starting to annoy me that she constantly has something to say about things that don't concern her.