To have confronted family who tried to shame me at school performance? (period related)

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Went to DS recital at school tonight. Wearing new linen trousers with, as I now realise, have shallow pockets. Had been running round on hospital runs and other errands all day so had put 2 non-applicator tampons in my pocket.
Sitting in bleacher type seating watching school performance and heard giggling and chatter from family behind me (mother, father, 2 kids). They were Polish so probably thought I wouldn't understand, but were laughing as one of the tampons had fallen out of my pocket.
I waited until the end of the performance and told them it was extremely rude to talk through a child's performance but I'd make sure I did the same when their daughters turn came (obviously I wouldn't do that) then questioned how they'd feel if someone tried to humiliate their daughter in the same way as she's obviously going to start her periods soon if she hasn't already. They were mortified and left.
DP thinks IABU but I think I shouldn't be shamed for carrying sanitary products.

For the record, I understood the basics of what they said because eldest DD has a Polish BF.

So the conversation (in Polish) probably went like this:

”That woman’s dropped her tampon, should we tell her?”

”No, I think she’ll realise soon enough!”

Two people laugh a bit, then change the subject. OP hears the word “tampon”, realises she has dropped hers, and thinks they are laughing at her. Had she dropped her sanitary towel (podpaska higieniczna) she wouldn’t have had a clue what they were talking about, despite “understanding” Polish.

Both hospital rounds and linen were 2 details I didn't pick up in first reading, class markers obviously mean more to some than others

głupie gadanie

I thought she'd put 'hospital runs' not rounds? Either way, if this did happen Bigfoot works at Tesco & Nessie is a lifeguard at the local leisure centre.

Wait for it…OP will return to tell us DD’s previous boyfriend has watched every episode of “Friends” so OP uses American words and phrases.

True.

I’m only here to find out how you learn a foreign language from your daughter snogging a Polish bloke.
DD2 has GCSE French next year, so I’m all ears for tips!

Maybe the OP's from Poland or her family is but she didn't want to say so because she didn't want to be shamed. The family understood her or they wouldn't have left . The OP understood them well or she would have ignored for not being sure about what was said.

Anyone know the Polish for "I orphaned a thread I started because discerning readers saw straight through my fake linen trousers."

Uh?
What batshittery is this?
Are people generally worried they’ll be shamed on MN for being Polish? I’ve never seen that 🤷🏻‍♀️
And if they were, would they merrily tell us their daughter was dating a Polish man?

Here’s what happened… OP dropped tampon. Polish family laughed - which may or may not have been related to the tampon. OP gave them a ticking off in English. They understood (all hail our impressively bilingual neighbours!) and were either shamed or didn’t fancy sitting near the crazy.

Here’s what didn’t happen… OP understood Polish from some kind of osmosis gleaned from her daughter’s boyfriend.

@BlueStarfish - OP literally says 'For the record, I understood the basics of what they said because eldest DD has a Polish BF.'

She's as Polish as Mr Sheen.

Maybe the OP's from Poland or her family is but she didn't want to say so because she didn't want to be shamed

Did you put your back out making that reach?

Good for you, OP! Good for you! Somebody finally had the guts to stand up and say it!

Good for you, OP! Good for you! Somebody finally had the guts to stand up and say it!

Stand up & make up say what?

It is hilarious that so many posters find it unbelievable that OP can understand some Polish. I have distant relatives who are Italian and spent some time with them during some vacations and that was enough to pick up quite a lot of Italian as we had no common language. Admittedly I also speak French, which helps, but still. I bet OP has spent more time listening to Polish than I have listened to Italian.

Maybe the OP's from Poland or her family is but she didn't want to say so because she didn't want to be shamed.

So concerned about being shamed but quite happy to make sure that we all know that the laughers were Polish. In other words, it’s OK to throw fellow Poles into the lion’s den where they could be shamed?

What a steaming pile of shite.

@Fimofriend I find your leap of a post more hilarious!

So you…

• have spent time yourself with Italian relatives


• in an immersion - not common language - environment


• and you speak French which is in the same Romance languages group as Italian, scoring as “highly related”


• is exposed Polish in an entirely different language group to English “remotely related”, just a few points of “very remotely”


• exposure is a child’s boyfriend where it seems highly unlikely the boyfriend is speaking a lot of Polish and is hanging out with mum a lot of the time

www.elinguistics.net/Compare_Languages.aspx

Obviously I’ll revise my position if OP comes back to say that the boyfriend only speaks Polish and has been living with them for a year, and she’s actually Czech herself 🤣

OP obviously lives in Crewe, where virtually everyone knows someone who is Polish.

Maybe the performances were so bad, that is what they were laughing at (still rude though!)
Maybe the falling tampon was more interesting than what was happening on stage
Maybe it was like my 1981 local Arts Festival where I was one of the over 100 Primary school children who had to play Bobby Shafto on the recorder INDIVIDUALLY - so anything would be better than that!

Yes. Or Krakow?