School run related

[Onlyrainbows]

I'm prepared to be told I'm being unreasonable (my DH has apologised which also makes it a bit of a moot point). On Fridays I collect the DC (own and DSC) within a 30min window as I have to go and get them whenever I don't have any meetings, but for the most part it's always the same time, and I've never cancelled or changed the time apart from once. That day I could only get them earlier than usual and if not my DH would have to go and get them. My DD was fine but my DSC weren't ready and my DSS panicked so their dad ended up going to get them (so two trips). Their mother has now said that is unacceptable and that she needs a guaranteed pick up time (that up until that day hasn't been an issue). So my DH told her that the only guaranteed time was if he picked them up. However my DD (and her dad) don't like her to wait around for that extra couple of hours until he can get them. Two trips is silly as it's a 1hr round trip. So was I being unreasonable to get annoyed with my DH for agreeing to something that impacted everyone and not just his children? That is only convenient for his exW, but didn't even considered asking what my opinion would be about it? I got annoyed almost in principle (there's only 3 Fridays left and my DD is taking public transport from September) so in the grand scheme of things it's not a big deal, it's the not taking me (and my daughter) into consideration that annoyed me.

So what happens now.. for the next three weeks? You pick your DD up at the usual time and your DH picks his kids up at an agreed later time? That sounds OK.. yes a pain but doable.

Definitely not enough notice in my DSS's eyes as he likes to get changed, pack a bag, etc..

I think your DH needs to be addressing the fact that a 16 year old can't do that in half an hour! Not changing everyone else to pander to this

Chateau no idea. Today there's a school fair so they're getting picked up later. Next Friday no clue, and the last one we plan to take half a day off to be able to collect them and go and have a pizza party for end of year.

Maybe his dm needs to hire a proper chauffeur for her little Prince....

Well seeing as your DH has made a unilateral decision without consulting you then he can spend the next 3 weeks collecting his DC from their other home.

Forgot to say YANBU He has no right to make a decision that impacts you without consulting you first.

Btw, what happens re DSC when your DD starts taking public transport?

My DSC will have to suck it up and wait for their DF to get them.

Why does this affect you? Your DH was a bit of an idiot to agree to it but he's the one who's going to have to do the additional trip, not you. You were doing him a favour, now you can't, so he'll have to do it instead. Might make him think twice about agreeing to stuff like this in future.

Well it's an "expensive" additional trip (with the current diesel prices) in that way it's a household decision

If the parents aren't happy with the pick up, they can do it themselves. Just let them do it. I thought you were talking about a small child, not a 16 yo! He'll be an adult soon. They're ridiculous.