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I'm in a LDR and have been for 2 years. Getting married October.

I found out I was pregnant (planned)

At approx 6 weeks, dp told his mum. He explained I'm due February but likely to deliver sooner via elective section due to previous births.

MIL said the dates don't add up (they do) and that he should get a DNA. Not sure what she's based that on, as dp is most certainly the father! I don't cheat and the likely day of conception (and the week before and after) he was with me the whole time, I never went anywhere without him...

MIL then called me to tell me what she'd said because she "knows Alex will tell me anyway". I was gobsmacked. She told me before he had chance to. Then she said "you understand why I said it don't you"

Er, no.

AIBU?

YANBU. I’d be off to get the DNA done via NIPT and then make certain she knew exactly where that leaves her standing.

Your DP should be as appalled as you are.

Some people don't understand how pregnancy is dated - from your last period, so basically when you actually ovulate and conceive you're "2 weeks" pregnant. My own DP often questions if his DS is biologically his because he can't wrap his mind around how pregnancy is dated and he wasn't with his ex and way away working when week 0 was (ie .. when she had her period before she even ovulated). We all roll our eyes and try to explain but it's baffling. Is she looking at those dates and not understanding? Ie you were with him and conceived 4 weeks ago and thus are "six weeks" pregnant but he wasn't there six physical weeks ago?

Has your DP tried explaining how it's dated?

Blame Brexit.

Sorry I realise this is really upsetting but it reminded me of a young women my grandparents knew, it was WWII and her husband was away fighting, she was living with her in laws, when she was 10 months pregnant if she had her dates right, she explained that it was because of the war, babies were taking longer.

So if your MIL is batshit just claim Brexit is interfering, then let her pay for the DNA test.

Wow, who the hell does she think she is!! I hope your DP put her in her place.

Have you had any issues with her before?

I find it very odd to plan a pregnancy in a LDR. Maybe she does too.

Regardless, I'd not be around her from now on.

The cheeky sod!
Who the hell does she think she is?!
I certainly wouldn't be getting a DNA test done just to put her mind at ease!
I'd be fuming to be accused of cheating just because she can't do math!
How awful that this is her response after announcing your pregnancy. So disrespectful.

I was physically with him before I ovulated that's why I can't understand her reaction!

We are in a LDR but he is moving my way end of this month and we marry October, she knows this too!