To be this sad about my boss leaving?!

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I found out my boss is leaving today. I am shocked to find myself so upset. I cried when I found out - and I never cry!!!

I have only worked with him for about 18 months but I really enjoy his company (not romantically he is gay and much older than me). He mentored me straight out of uni and work will be nowhere near as enjoyable without him.

I have no idea why I am so upset (deffo not PMS). I feel very silly!

Don’t feel silly. I was upset when my manager was in an accident so has been out of action for a few weeks now.
she’s one of the best managers i’ve had. Very supportive and encouraging

@Danikm151 I am sorry to hear about your manager. I hope she gets better soon.

My boss has been very supportive as well. He had a lot of faith in me and encouraged me in ways I haven’t ever experienced from other people before.

I've felt like this when close colleagues have left my workplace. It's kind of like a break up, we spend so much time together so it's hard when you know you won't see them again. On the other hand though I've been glad to see the back of some 😂

Not unreasonable. My manager is great, I moved to this team partially because of her, and I'd be heartbroken if she left!

I don't think it's unreasonable. I have an absolutely lovely boss and would be gutted if she left.

I think that's lovely. When I left my last job, where I was the boss, one of my team members cried when I told them. I was mortified (but very, very touched)

Not remotely unreasonable. My much loved boss left recently. We’d worked together for 9 years. Not only was she professionally inspirational, she is a wonderful person. Really built my confidence after a rough time at a previous job. Very supportive after all of my maternity leaves and just a stable, kind presence in my life. I was absolutely gutted to see her go. Embarrassingly, ridiculously gutted.

Don't feel silly! Managers can be big parts of our lives, if you get on well then it's perfectly understandable.

You often spend more time with work collegues than you do your own family. You are together in sometimes stressful and tricky situations. You have to have each others backs. So when one of you leaves it can be very sad. ( But also fantastic if you didn't get on !)

YANBU at all. My manager is moving to a different department and I'm gutted. She's so supportive and knowledgeable and puts me forward for lots of great opportunities.

She's being replaced by someone with a very different style, different views and is known across the company as being pretty incompetent. I'm trying to keep an open mind but am certain we're going to clash over things and she won't have my back. I had to stop myself from crying when I got told.

I would absolutely love my current boss to leave, but I’ve had some great ones in the past and was sad when they moved on.

The good ones always move onwards and upwards. The ones not committed to the work often stay too long. Perhaps your paths will cross in future work situations. Hopefully you will stay in touch.

That sounds like a lovely friendship as well as a great work relationship and I would be equally sad. Hope you can stay in touch. Also sounds like you have a job that you really care about. I hope in decades' time someone who values you as much feels the same about you moving on.

I don’t think it’s silly - a good boss is life changing and a total crap shoot

I feel the same way!!! My boss just announced today that he will be leaving, and I am absolutely devastated. I feel heart broken, just like a break up. But there was absolutely no romantic anything whatsoever because like you my boss was also gay. I’m going to miss him so much. He made work so much fun and he was a great manager.

It is sad when you’ve worked well together. My manager was my manager from coming out of uni too and he was brilliant with me through some of the toughest times in my life. When he left, I was very sad, so were lots of members of the team, and so was he. I still miss him nearly 2 years later but life moves on doesn’t it and ultimately people will do what’s best for them and their family, I know it’s hard though.