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Why do I always find myself in these situations?

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emubugs · 07/07/2022 13:33

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Aged 14 in school we went on a trip to Spain. One of the pupils had a non-UK passport and needed to fill in extra paperwork A few weeks before the trip, the teacher (incorrectly) said it was me who had the non-UK passport and said it in front of me and my friends. My friends questioned me about this. I told them it was not me. They said I was lying. This went on for a few weeks. In the end I was fed up of it all and told them yes it was me (after all, that was what they wanted to hear). When they found out it wasn't me they defriended me. We never spoke again.

Aged 15 I went to a disco at the local shops. When I got home my parents were really angry at me. Apparently, my dad had been to the shops on the night of the disco, saw me smoking outside the disco and alleged that I saw him and ran off. I had never smoked in my life at that age or even tried a cigarette. They never believed me.

As an adult, a friend accused me of lying. The conversation in which I was accused of lying within was over text. At that time text messages disappeared after they were sent (old technology) . I had no way of proving I hadn't lied and she had mis-remembered the conversation. We've not spoken since.

DH loses things and asks me to find them with him. I go straight to the first place I would assume he will have put the item, and I usually find it. I then get accused of knowing where the item was all along and purposely putting it there to hide it from him.

Neighbours car gets vandalised. Police knock on all the neighbours doors to see if they know anything. I really like the neighbours and was gutted for them about their car. The policeman asks me about it then says I look like I know something or am hiding something. WTAF ?

why is it always me ?

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emubugs · 07/07/2022 13:43

oh and to add to this - go away with a friend. We go to a town in UK where I have a male friend. Don't know him that well. We meet up with him, for some reason he is all over me, friend says I have clearly been messaging him for months. I hadn't and told her that. She doesn't believe me. I have never given this guy the come on or any other related signals. No idea why he was so flirty with me.

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Blue4YOU · 07/07/2022 13:47

That’s all pretty weird: for one thing the passport bit was a bit daft as you shouldn’t have admitted to it etc but still - why would your friends care? Very odd!!
Re your DH - I think sometimes men are like that about losing/finding things but I’d be telling him to look for the thing himself in future and not to imply or actually state the opposite.
Re your parents- did that get resolved? At night time it’s easy to mid-identify someone.
re the friend accusing you of lying- did they or were they just hell bent on their version?
I kind of know the pain of being considered a liar..
Had a comparable experience as a late teen though not involving smoking. I was absolutely furious.
It’s a genuinely awful feeling to be accused of lying. I hate it so much (because I never lie) that I’m taking the NHS trust to court for saying I was not sexually assaulted by their consultant. I literally cannot let it go!
I feel for you

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