DH never sees his old school friends, but on the odd occasion he does, he goes out at 6pm & comes back blind drunk as late as 5am. We've just had a huge row as I asked him if he could tell me what time he'll be home for his next visit to one of their houses this weekend. He said he doesn't know, it'll be when he's ready and doesn't want to have to think " oh I''d better go now as Deadivy wants me home. "
To clarify, it's fair walk, but he is in walking distance of them, they play cards & guitars mostly but do get really drunk, but harmless. The issue is I can't sleep until he's home. I try but I can't, so we argue when he gets home as I'm grouchy and over tired. Is the issue me? I don't know what's reasonable and what isn't. He seems them three times a year. We usually out with other friends in couples. We have no kids so no responsibilities as such. We're in our late 40s. He says he sounds like his parents, he moved out from being with them to living with me and he feels there's no change with this. We are great in every area of our relationship, he's very kind really does put everyone first until he brings up going out with them. He tells me he's too scared to mention it now as it will end up with a row. I would love some guidance on how I could deal with this better, I am the one who erupts, not him. I wish I could be calm and just sleep and be happy he's having a great time, which he deserves. 😢