Can’t shed baby weight . AIBU to be depressed? Tips please !

[Yoooooogapinkpants]

Age 32.

I have always loved exercise and healthy eating but enjoyed some treats .

During lockdown I gained 5 pounds.

I got pregnant and gained 50 pounds
( I honestly don’t believe I ate for two but I know I ate more than usual and i just craved carbs in first trimester!)

Anyway . Baby is 8 months. I have walked and walked and eaten healthy and lost 45 pounds of the 50 I gained .

I can’t lose the last 5 pounds . Plus the 5 pounds I gained before pregnancy. I’m still 10 pounds heavier and I feel so down about it. None of my old clothes fit and I feel like I’ll never get back to where I was .

I would love another baby but im adamant to lose this 10 pounds before I do that.

I feel so down . Anyone relate !?

AIBU to worry each day about my weight ?
Do I need to just get over myself?
Or do I need to refocus and get these last pounds off ?
Please help me ?????

YABU - you've lost 45lbs! You've done fantastically well and sounds like you'll soon shed the other 10 lbs. Naturally it will be a bit harder to lose the last few pounds or so...but you'll get there.

It's a bit ridiculous to call yourself "depressed" over it. I've got an 11 month old and really struggled to lose any weight due to ongoing pelvic pain and it feels super shitty but I'm still hopeful I can do it when I put my mind to it.

I want to say be kinder to yourself! You've already lost a lot of weight, wow! Mine didn't start coming off until I was back at work a year later

Your body is only 8 months out from creating a whole new life! You've been through 9 months of pregnancy - baby hasn't even been out as long as they were in! The most important thing to realise is that your body is still recovering and will be for probably at least another year. It might not be ready to shed those last few pounds but you've already come such a long way!

You're not unreasonable to be frustrated with it, I was too. My body was just so different. Is it in your budget to buy a few items of clothing that fit better to tide you over? I did that instead of wearing my scruffy old stuff and felt better about myself.

P. S your baby thinks you're beautiful however much you weigh

You can do whatever makes you happier - lose the extra pounds or not.

If you want to lose them, consider upping your exercise from just walking. HIIT or ideally incorporating a strength, weight based workout regularly.

But you don't have to. Your body, your choice.

Just give it a bit of time it's only been 8 months! I finally lost the last 3 pounds of baby weight about two years after baby arrived. You'll get there it's just a slower process after the initial weight comes off.

YABU to worry about your weight every day. Focus on eating and exercising to be healthy, strong and energentic for your baby, and you will land at a weight that's good for you. It's a shame to waste time and efforting feeling depressed over 10lbs.
Also, you don't indicate whether you are overweight, or either last 10lbs are just a preference in terms of how you look? If the latter, the changes due to age and pregnancy might just have triggered your body to hold onto weight differently.
Did you breastfeed? Sometimes when you stop, it stalls weightloss because you are no longer benefitting from the calories it takes to do that.

If you worry each day about 10 pounds I think there is a deeper issue here.
After DC1 i lost all the weight in 2 months.
Now, after DD2, 8 months later i am still 10 pounds bigger. And honestly i do not give a fuck. My body went through so much (2 pregnancy and a lot of breastfeeding), i am so grateful for it.
You will loose the weight overtime.

Are you BFing? I absolutely couldn't lose the last 10 lbs when I was feeding. I tried everything. Then when I stopped it fell off.

I was the opposite, I had steady weightloss till I significantly cut down/ stopped breastfeeding, when it stalled.

I was the opposite, I had steady weightloss till I significantly cut down/ stopped breastfeeding, when it stalled.

Yeah that's the expected pattern, but a minority don't lose while feeding (or not after a certain point).

Try HIIT training - worked amazing for me

You'll get lots of people telling you you're daft for worrying about an extra 10lb, but I understand where you're coming from and completely sympathise. I also put on a huge amount of weight (more than your 50lb!!) in my second pregnancy and it took a little while to lose the last bit.

It genuinely bothered me when my clothes didn't fit, and I didn't feel like myself. In the end, I ended up 7lb lighter than before I got pregnant, and that was mainly down to extra exercise and keeping an eye on my diet.

The obvious answer is to up your exercise, if all you're doing at the moment is walking. C25k is great for getting you to a point where you can be running regularly. Also, I strongly suggest you stop drinking, if you currently drink. It's full of calories and will make you feel more depressed, as well as making you less likely to get up early and exercise in the morning.

You have lost 45 pounds in 8 months? That's amazing!

Give it time, slow and steady. Focus on eating good quality food. Get enough sleep (hard to do with a baby I know) and drink plenty of water.

Thank you everyone . Feeling hugely motivated . I suppose DS is only 8 months and my amazing body feels him. I will lose this weight but it might take 4/6/10/12 months. But instead of stressing about pounds I want to focus on eating the right things and working out and then the weight loss should fall into place.

When I’m feeling down it just makes me want to give up . So I need to focus on a healthy lifestyle for me and baby ! Also , I think I can add in some HITT/ jogging .

I never breast fed as DS had an undiagnosed tongue tie ( long story !)

Ive lost 45 pounds ! I will lose the last 10 with the right attitude !

But instead of stressing about pounds I want to focus on eating the right things and working out and then the weight loss should fall into place.

Exactly

Tiredness also plays a role. It's hard to lose when you're exhausted.