My mother had two siblings I’ll call them Fran and Stan. My mother had two children, me and my brother. Fran and her husband adopted two children as babies. Stan married a woman with five adult children (she was much older than Stan).
Me, my brother and Fran’s children saw my grandmother every holiday, special event, etc, and were very close. Her son Stan lived in another country (where he met his wife with the five adult children). He and his wife saw my grandmother once a year, were not as close, loved each other but had a rather strained relationship, My grandmother never met her step-grandchildren who were adults all with their own lives in another country.
When my grandmother died, she divided her estate four ways: between Stan, Fran, and my brother and myself because my mother had died before her. She also gave Fran’s children 5K each and my brother and I 5K each. She did not leave anything to Stan’s step children, whom she’d never met.
AIBU or not in thinking this wasn’t that bad of her? She’d never met Stan’s step children, she wasn’t (in my eyes) being spiteful, the adult step children never made an effort to meet her either (understandably I think - they had their blood grandmother on their father’s side in their lives)
When the will was read Stan blew his top. He said if Fran’s children (who had a close relationship with their grandmother) weren’t ‘blood’ - meaning because they were adopted (as babies and knew her 30 years!) then they shouldn’t have gotten anything either.
AIBU to think the way she divided her estate was fair and made sense? Or am I missing something and Stan is right?