Anyone ever had a sudden relationship doubt out of nowhere

[Caribou1]

I've been with my partner for just over 2 years. It's mostly been great, not perfect but what is. We don't argue really, we've had disagreements and spoken about issues but never full on arguments. Generally, we get on great, lot in common and have a great laugh.
I've hoped for a while that we'll get married.
I think I've always had a bit of an anxious attachment style, but it seems to have died down a little luckily.
I've felt that I'd be happy to commit to him for life and I've never had interest in anyone else since being with him.
I don't know what happened, but I literally woke up one day and felt a bit numb. There's been no argument or anything, I just started getting this horrible anxiety about the relationship and questioning everything and have been for around a fortnight now.
It's just come out of nowhere, nothing triggered it. I'm not unhappy in the relationship at all. It's not perfect like I say but nothing ever is.
Maybe the infatuation has worn off after a couple of years and I'm confusing it with something else?
I'm not looking for constant fireworks anyway, I'm never bored with him, I'm attracted to him still and I have such a great time with him.
I've no interest in meeting anyone else and honestly my life would not benefit in any way from leaving him, he still lets me be my own person and we still leave independent lives.
This has never, ever happened to me. I'm so sad every day, I just want it to go away.
I still love him and I'm genuinely really happy with him. Has anyone else had this? I do have anxiety so it may be related.

It’s a thing, don’t panic! I have GAD, suspected ADHD and OCD and have experienced this many times. It wrecked two wonderful relationships before I finally sought help (therapy, exercise and meds). Yours might not be as pernicious as mine, but have a read and see if any of this rings a bell for you x

www.google.co.uk/search?q=relationship+ocd&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&hl=en-gb&client=safari

Thanks for your reply.
I'm sorry to hear you've had that, and it's great you've received the help.
I always wonder if this is why I ended my first relationship a decade ago, I just seemed to end it for no reason and afterwards regretted it but it was too late. Obviously moved on now but regretted it at the time.
I have heard of women who suffer from PMDD having feelings like this nearly every month.
I'll have a read of it, thanks.

I get random repetitive phrases or thoughts in my head that I don't want. This is going to sound really weird but not that long ago I had the same thing where I worried I was actually attracted to women, I felt distressed for about 2 weeks and it played on my mind constantly then it suddenly went away. I'd feel awkward around all women now I don't feel attracted to them. Someone mentioned OCD when I told them about it. It's horrible and takes over your entire mind. It's even made me feel suicidal.

And that also came absolutely out of nowhere. I got a short pixie cut (which I've had before) then out of nowhere a thought popped into my mind "am I actually attracted to women?!" And it went from there.

Yep, I’ve had all that! It’s a really common problem, the gay thing is called Homosexual OCD (sometimes H-OCD but that can also stand for Harm OCD, intrusive thoughts about harming yourself or others… I think George Ezra has that one oddly 🤔 he mentioned having Pure O (obsessional thought patterns) in an interview once).

There’s a whole world of Pure O out there unfortunately, but the first step to managing it is realising that you have it! Once you know the thoughts aren’t real, everything becomes a bit easier to deal with ❤️

have a look at some forums for more information and if you want to read about others struggling with similar problems :Forums

But beware! OCD feeds off reassurance, you need exposure therapy, ie live in the uncertainty and carry on with the relationship regardless of triggering thoughts… it’s not easy but I’m now happily (mostly!) married with a family, and most of my OCD has buggered off after years of working on it. Best of luck to you too x

Thanks for your help, I really appreciate it. It's terrifying what the brain can do. I'm glad you're managing ok.