IABU or is it a man thing?

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If you've seen my other thread yesterday about being missed off guest list for a party then this sort of relates to that.
I was venting my frustration to my husband last night about the actions of a friend towards me and his response was why you care? He always says the same thing if I talk to him about similar things ie stupid arguments or misinterpretation of texts with friends/family. Sometimes I want to vent but all I get back is "don't let it upset you just move on". Sometimes I find this response unhelpful because it feels like he's saying he doesn't care that I'm upset/annoyed etc. Is it me or is it a man thing? Men seem to process situations differently but it just feels like I can't talk to him anymore about what's on my mind because I'll get a "why do you care" in response

Don't think it's a 'man thing', merely a 'laid back' thing.

I suspect he doesn't care that you're annoyed because he can't see why you're annoyed in the first place. Some people care about some of the issues that bother you, some people don't.

Getting all annoyed about perceived slights or "misinterpretation of text messages" isn't something I do, but others might, such is life. A simple "yes that's nice dear"/a vacant "how awful" would be equally unhelpful - although I do sometimes get the need to vent, I don't see how you're expecting his response to change?. He's actually providing a form of advice that might be useful to take occasionally?

Not a man thing and insensitive thing. Could you spell it out to him what you need in those moments. Like I need to vent can you show me you're listening and take into account how I am feeling.

I don’t think it’s a man thing at all. People just respond differently.

from him POV he may think your making a mountain out of a molehill

His is probably the better way to handle things. If what you want though is just for him to listen and sympathise; have you actually told him this, clearly?

He probably thinks you want something off him like a solution. Just tell him you want to whinge.

I agree with him. Why do you care?

I’d think like this too- a kind of water off a duck’s back thing. More likely when these things happen people just aren’t thinking and so they do something that someone wrongly reads into as a snub or rejection. I’ve a number of friends who are the same, they say life’s too short, but I’ve other friends that get offended, it just depends on the person-I don’t think it’s just a man thing