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Am I right to not go to wedding?

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Discodancing77 · 04/07/2022 21:59

One of DH friends is getting married in a few months. We are invited to the evening reception,but I really dont want to go. We attended a wedding of another member of this particular group last year and basically no one really spoke to me ( for context I know all the people in the group although I'm not massively close to them ) despite me trying to chat to people. This group are a bit of a clique which is fine but I'd rather not spend time and money being ignored and feeling awkward.
I'm more than happy for my DH to go and have fun,but hes having a strop and saying he wants me to go.
Am i being unreasonable?

OP posts:
AngelinaFibres · 04/07/2022 22:53

Discodancing77 · 04/07/2022 22:07

I've said I would rather not go as its the same group as the previous wedding. I'm really sociable and chatty but it is very cliquey and last time we were left alone st a table ,it was very awkward .
He can go alone,but it's an hour away from here so would mean getting the transport they are providing by himself.

Presumably he's an adult with an adult life and an adult job that you don't go to with him. If he goes without you he will have a much better time and won't be left alone on a table.

AngelinaFibres · 04/07/2022 22:56

Discodancing77 · 04/07/2022 22:11

Hes a friend of DH ,they went to nursery and school together and still socialise from time to time. Most of the group are drug users whilst neither me or DH are so we have often found we are excluded from things or treated like social anomalies because we dont join in.
It doesnt bother me or DH what other people do, we just choose not to.

Well that clinches it. Druggies are twats. No need for you to ever have anything to do with them.

Autienotnaughtie · 04/07/2022 22:57

If it was a good friend of mine and everyone was in couples I would be disappointed if dh didn't want to go. If it was a work colleague and everyone was going in a group I wouldn't have a issue.

Original poster
Discodancing77 · 04/07/2022 23:00

Thanks for all your replies, I feel like I'm fairly sure I wont go but did want to get other opinions.

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onlythreenow · 04/07/2022 23:05

I think that sometimes you do things for your partner, because you are part of a couple.

This. We all have to do things we don't want to sometimes, it's part of life. I wouldn't dream of telling my partner to go to a wedding alone just because I didn't want to go - and would expect the same in return.

butterflied · 04/07/2022 23:13

*last time we were left alone st a table ,it was very awkward

butterflied · 04/07/2022 23:15

Ugh, hit post instead of preview. But with this I wonder why DH would won't to go let alone you.

Nanny0gg · 04/07/2022 23:20

Discodancing77 · 04/07/2022 22:11

Hes a friend of DH ,they went to nursery and school together and still socialise from time to time. Most of the group are drug users whilst neither me or DH are so we have often found we are excluded from things or treated like social anomalies because we dont join in.
It doesnt bother me or DH what other people do, we just choose not to.

Why does he want to go? You were both ignored!

I can see why he doesn't want to go on his own though

HeArInGhandsgirl11 · 05/07/2022 17:14

Use it as a date night OP. You and your DH have a drink and a dance and do t worry about the group!

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