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To ask to keep family heirlooms

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Olympe · 04/07/2022 18:30

Hello to you all,

I need a bit of advice and I usually find useful tips here.

Recently lost my Grandpa, which was devastating as we were very close. He left everything to my Granny. He had a house that’s been in the family for over 150 years and is full of family treasures passed down generations. I’ve always loved it, wonderful to have all these items cherished by our ancestors. The house belongs to my Granny at the moment and then will go to my Dad and his siblings.

The point is, recently I’ve found out that my Granny and my Aunt have been throwing out some stuff without telling anyone. I understand fully that we’re all different and not everyone cares about it. But I thought we could have at least talked about it, so I could have said I wanted to keep it (if they’re getting rid of it, what difference does it make for them??)

Ive always been much of a people pleaser and never say or ask for anything in fear of “bothering” people. But am feeling very sad at the idea of these loved items, some 200 years old, lost forever.

So I guess my point is, would it be unreasonable to ask them to tell me before throwing out anything? What would you do?? How would you ask?

Thank you very much 🙂

OP posts:
Whatonearth07957 · 04/07/2022 18:34

Of course! Do it now. You can always say you heard they were getting rid of some items and you'd love to have dibs on them before they get rid..

Boxowine · 05/07/2022 01:00

I think that you should feel free to bring it up to them. They might find it helpful rather than confrontational if you assist them with the removal of things they don't want.

LAtalante · 05/07/2022 01:05

Why not just ask for a few items to remember your grandfather, then go and choose something?

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