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Silly comments- is he insecure or what?

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LostInDating · 04/07/2022 18:16

So this guy from my previous thread I had my eyes on for last couple of months was giving my mixed signals. Now I can confirm that he said he does like me. He came around for dinner once to my place stayed overnight but we didn’t have sex(my choice) then we went out for breakfast date and last weekend after salsa night he invited me to his, he made some food and we kissed and cuddled (he wanted more but I said no coz I had to leave soon - I don’t like to rush in bed if you know what I mean).
Anyways, I had a very busy week and wasn’t as talkative with him as usual we face timed maybe 1-2 and texted few times.
i was working over the weekend but still decided to go for salsa yesterday so I could see him. he was surprised to see me there, we danced a few songs and then he said something that I didn’t respond to his message - honestly there wasn’t much to respond we wished each other nice weekend and that’s all and I was working and he knew that. Than after a while he asked me to dance again I agreed and just randomly looked around the room as walking towards him and he said “what? Are you afraid your boyfriend will see you with me ?!” I was like “what are you talking about ? What boyfriend? “…his face was dead serious I swear that wasn’t a joke…
I hate when men throws this stupid comments…anyway we finished dancing in silence and then I was there for another 30mins or so, but lost my mood you know. so when I was leaving I said goodbye to some friends and he saw me leaving - he asked to dance I refused saying that I’m going. He offered to walk me to my car - I refused I was mad for sure we would argue if he did walk my out.
had some messaged from him since then he apologised etc but honestly I can’t be bothered to deal with insecure men…am I too much ?

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Dollshouse44 · 04/07/2022 18:18

Yes, he sounds insecure to me and it could be a sign of things to come. He may be a paranoid type and want to check up on you. I would walk away

Justmuddlingalong · 04/07/2022 18:21

Does it matter what he is? It's all game playing and point scoring, what a pain in the arse it all sounds.

SmileyPiuPiu · 04/07/2022 18:21

It's completely up to you. If you can't be bothered with him I wouldn't see him again it's not fair on either of you.

FlissyPaps · 04/07/2022 18:22

If you can’t be bothered, then don’t pursue anything else with him.

When seeing someone it should be easy, fun and exciting. Your scenario just seems awkward and negative. You’re probably on different wavelengths and have different needs.

user1471517900 · 04/07/2022 18:32

This seems very confusing about whether you actually like him or not.

ImpartialMongoose · 04/07/2022 18:35

He already sounds jealous and possessive like he owns you. I would get the hell away from him before it gets any worse.

DDivaStar · 04/07/2022 18:37

To be honest you seem to be sending mixed messages. If you like him but want to wait before sex tell him so. You rejecting him and not messaging seems to imply you're not really interested.

LostInDating · 04/07/2022 20:48

I was chasing this guy for 6months - I think I lost the hype about him

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Josette77 · 04/07/2022 21:02

Sounds like you don't really like him anyway.

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