to expect dh to be home before 7pm for the first time in months...

[Rantmum]

when a) He said he would be
b) I was invited out a week ago for the evening and CLEARED it with him as far as work commitments.
c)We have recently moved to a new country and I need to try to make friends somehow until I can get a job.

Now he is saying "I will try to be home in time" TRY? TRY? FGS he promised!

I am not taking my ds on a girls night out and we have not found a babysitter yet (new country and all that). If he is not home on time, I will not be responsible for the anger that will be unleashed....

what did you say when he said 'try'?if it were me i would have said 'no,darling,you are going to be home before 7 as you said.see you at about half 6ish then,love you,bye!'and hung up before he had a chance to reply.

He emailed it because his phone has "run out of batteries" so my response is pending. Sounds good though Diva...

Is he in the kind of job where nobody leaves early? It can be difficult to get away. He may have the kind of boss who asks for a last-minute meeting at 6pm...

really?i assume they have telephones where he works though,if they have the internet?

i am on your behalf,its so disrespectful of him trying to control your life by pissing you about.

You are not unreasonable. I had to put my foot down myself recently. There was a woman that my DH worked with that thought it was ok for her to leave early and leave Dh with the rest of her work because she had to get home to her kids. I pointed out to him that he to was a parent and he stood up to her and now he has been home at 5:30 on days he is working locally. It can be done so keep at him.

Yes Unquiet Dad, he is and I understand that about his job and support him most days of the year, but because we moved in October and this is the first opportunity I have had since then to go out without my ds in tow (or indeed to go out in the evening) to get to know some people, he PROMISED! Under any other circumstances I would not be this annoyed.

Anyway he is a senior manager, he is not entirely unable to make his own decisions in this regard, unlike a few years ago.

Sorry UD, if that post sounded rude, just meant it as an explanation.

He just emailed to say he is on his way. I guess the Diva response did the trick. Thanks

dh is never home that early. more like 8pm

enjoy your night out!

enjoy rantmum
what you doing anyway?

sigh here too hana dh home after 7 most nights sometimes way past

he was away 3 days last week and it didn't really make any difference as he's gone at 730 and back after girls are in bed (very hands on when he is around tho, to be fair)

i dont know - i can see why you're annoyed but you cant always just drop everything and leave at work.

I realise that, rantmum.
I was probably telling you stuff you already know anyway.

UnquietDad - I have one of those sort of jobs, where no-one leaves on time. Strangely I seem to be able to manage it, because no-one collects the Dcs if I don't.

I'm sure lots of the men I work with use that excuse. Its rubbish - there is absolutely no pressure for them to stay from, anyone except themselves and their egos and if there was what's the worst thing that can happen if they say sorry I promised I'd be home on time tonight?