Advice about navigating 12 year old relationships

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How involved do you get in your childrens relationships? Like boyfriend/girlfriend situations?

Do you allow it?
If so, do you offer any guidance or leave them to it?
If they have acted unreasonably to their partner whilst with them or during a break up, so you pull them up about it and explain how to deal better next time?

This is all very new to me and I want to be involved and explain the right way to go about doing things, being respectful, not mean and not having more than one relationship at a time etc

Is that what other parents do too? Not sure if I'm being a bit helicoptery

I wouldn’t treat it anything like as seriously as that if they’re 12. It’s not really a ‘relationship’ at that age. It’s a friend they fancy a bit.

They’re 12, they’re a child. They don’t have a ‘partner’, that have a friend they like a bit more than some of their others.
I would not be encouraging it as anything more than friendship and would be treating it like any other friendship.
If I felt they’d behaved badly I’d discuss it and look at how they could behave better next time.

This. They're children and I would remind them of that. I would also knock this partner business on the head. They're friends and that where it needs to end.