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To think I caused a miscarriage?

24 replies

Glitternails1 · 04/07/2022 11:25

I thought I had my period 2 weeks ago but I bled again today. I’m thinking that was ovulation/implantation bleeding. I had one gin and tonic at the weekend (I very rarely drink) and now I’m terrified I might have been pregnant and now miscarrying because of the blood. I thought I would be okay because I bled 2 weeks ago. I feel so sad and guilty. I’m not sure what I’m asking but I feel like crying.

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Echobelly · 04/07/2022 11:28

Do you tend to suffer from anxiety?

One drink does not cause a miscarrriage, you don't know it was implantation bleeding or that you are miscarrying, so, in the nicest possible way, YABVU. You are fine, you have not done anything wrong.

TheKeatingFive · 04/07/2022 11:31

You didn't cause a miscarriage because a) you don't know you were pregnant and b) one drink wouldn't cause a miscarriage.

You haven't done anything wrong at all.

Hugasauras · 04/07/2022 11:35

Nothing you do can cause a miscarriage so early on. If you are miscarrying it's because there was something wrong from conception, nothing you've done. Blood doesn't mean miscarriage necessarily too; some people do just have random bleeding and all is well.

Have you actually done a test to see if you are pregnant though? It sounds like you haven't confirmed whether you are or not. Sometimes cycles can just be weird.

Palmfrond · 04/07/2022 11:36

No you didn’t cause a miscarriage.
I think many conceptions are rejected at a very early stage and might not even be recognised as such a lot of the time, passed off as weird/late/heavy periods.

DiamanteDelia · 04/07/2022 11:37

A drink can't cause a miscarriage.

Have you done a test?

Original poster
Glitternails1 · 04/07/2022 11:38

@Echobelly the bleeding made me run to Google and I probably shouldn’t have. I’m not used to bleeding so soon. @TheKeatingFive thank you❤️

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ThreeLittleDots · 04/07/2022 11:39

It would be too early for implantation bleeding, and in any case 1 G&T doesn't cause miscarriage x

Bollindger · 04/07/2022 11:40

I drank before I knew, your fine, honest. It was not the drink.

TheGoogleMum · 04/07/2022 11:40

One drink doesn't cause a miscarriage. There's a few people I know who got drunk in between conception and finding out they were pregnant and baby had no ill effects (they felt guilty but no problem in the end!)

Lindy2 · 04/07/2022 11:41

No you didn't cause a miscarriage. You just didn't. x

Cakecakecheese · 04/07/2022 11:50

You haven't 'caused' anything.

NeedMoreMilk · 04/07/2022 11:51

You wouldn’t have caused a miscarriage from having one drink. Absolutely no way.

Have you done a test?

Echobelly · 04/07/2022 11:59

OP, if you are planning on having a baby it's worth getting a balanced picture of what risk means.

A 'risk' is not a 'harm', ie you won't automatically harm your baby if you eat unpasteurised or raw food, there's just a slightly increased risk of getting food poisoning, which could (again could, not will) cause issues with the pregnancy.

If you drink a lot (not once or twice because you didn't know you were pg yet) it could lead to foetal alcohol syndrome, but even that's not a given. The 'no alcohol rule' is there to lower the likelihood of overdoing it, not because even in a single drink is poison.

Irishfarmer · 04/07/2022 12:03

You absolutely did not cause a MC with 1 g&t

SafferUpNorth · 04/07/2022 12:06

OP, are you TTC - ie is there a good chance you may be pregnant? Have you done a test?

As others have said, one drink DOES NOT cause miscarriage. You've caused nothing. Now sit down, take a deep breath and stop panicking.

SafferUpNorth · 04/07/2022 12:08

OP, on a broader level, your post does make me wonder whether you struggle with anxiety. Maybe look into getting help for that before TTC?

Mariposista · 04/07/2022 12:26

Please relax OP. One G and T would not cause a miscarriage. Any midwife would tell you that most miscarriages happen and we just don't know why, so please get some help for your anxiety and relax.

Flangelica · 04/07/2022 12:27

I drank gallons of gin and tonics before realising I was pregnant!

BrownTableMat · 04/07/2022 12:28

What everyone else said. Plus, have you had covid recently by any chance? That seems to cause the menstrual cycle to go haywire for a bit in lots of women. It did for me

Shehasadiamondinthesky · 04/07/2022 12:30

Don't be so daft!!! I got prgnant at 21 and had no idea until 2 months later and had been out on the lash every weekend until I found out I was pregnant - that poor baby had everything thrown at him but he is still here at 40 years old.
One drink does not cause a miscarriage.

C152 · 04/07/2022 12:43

Oh no, OP, nothing you did or didn't do caused the miscarriage. Please don't blame youself. I'm very sorry you're going through this. x

Original poster
Glitternails1 · 04/07/2022 13:21

Thank you everyone. I realise I might sound a little silly but this random heavy bleeding scared me :(

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AndSoFinally · 04/07/2022 13:33

Even if it is a miscarriage, as everyone else said, it'll be nothing you've done.

After all, if there was anything a person could do to cause a miscarriage, no one would ever need an abortion, would they?

TinyTear · 04/07/2022 13:58

Whatever the circumstances you did not cause a miscarriage.

I am speaking as someone who had FIVE

the pregnancies that stayed were actually one when i had sangria just before i was due on, and another where i was making myself run and straining myself too much

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