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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Original poster

To think it doesn't matter if fiance sees dress before wedding

36 replies

Dowhatdowullywup · 03/07/2022 21:08

We are having a registry office just us our two dc and two witnesses.

As I'm having no bridesmaids etc to go shopping with and trust my oh opinion I have shown him dress options and ultimately the dress I'll be wearing on the day

I know a lot of people say its bad luck and 'don't you want to see his face when he sees you on the day'

AIBU to think this is a bit outdated? Anyone elses partner see their dress before the 'big day'?

OP posts:

AnneLovesGilbert · 03/07/2022 22:10

I ordered a bunch online and DH helped me choose one.

Have a very happy wedding!

bjs2310 · 03/07/2022 22:16

I had my dress made. My husband came to all my dress fittings and helped me design it. We have been married 20 years and are still very happy. Have the wedding you want, the way you want it.

ChagSameachDoreen · 03/07/2022 22:18

It's fine.

My DH saw mine before the wedding because it was my mother's and he'd seen my parents' wedding photos.

Superstitions are stupid.

Octomore · 03/07/2022 22:31

UrsulaPandress · 03/07/2022 21:17

Well you won’t be waking down the aisle in the registry office will you so I don’t see the problem.

I wore jeans and we all went in the same car.

A registry office can have an aisle. The one I got married in did.

Octomore · 03/07/2022 22:32

And DH saw my dress beforehand too. We are happily married, so no bad luck so far....

Erictheavocado · 03/07/2022 22:34

Dh saw a picture of my dress, beforehand, but didn't see me wearing it until I walked down the aisle. We are still happily married almost 40 years later.

Kite22 · 03/07/2022 22:43

amicissimma · 03/07/2022 22:08

If it doesn't matter to you, that's fine.

If it does matter to someone else, surely that's fine, too.

This ^

Logically it is just a superstition and a tradition.
Obviously it isn't going to affect your marriage in any way, but equally, there is something about "the moment" that he turns as you walk up the aisle for some people, particularly those who are having a more showy wedding than you.

That is what is so lovely about getting married now, rather than 40 or 50 years ago though - the fact there are so many different options for people getting married now

mnnewbie111 · 04/07/2022 06:43

I don't care about superstitions but I did want to see my Husband wow at me so I didn't show him first.
Each to their own, I couldn't care less what anyone else does/did about the dress. My wedding, my choice

Thepeopleversuswork · 04/07/2022 06:49

Of course it doesn’t matter. Any more than it matters to walk under a ladder

Ducksinthebath · 04/07/2022 08:11

My DH helped me put mine on so he’d seen it, manhandled it and the lot. Still going strong many years later.

GnusSitOnCanoes · 04/07/2022 08:25

DH helped me choose my dress, and we also did our wedding photos before the actual ceremony (so we wouldn’t miss time with our guests). It didn’t matter at all! (And we have a lovely pic of the first time we saw each other in all our finery.)

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