To think being “common” isn’t bad and much more fun than being “posh”

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I’ve read a few articles on Fb (I know I need a life but it’s my downtime) and recently there have been a few with “posh” people talking about what makes someone look common. Reading the 5 things that make you common I tick a few boxes and thought, being “posh” by these standards sounds insufferably dull; like you have to be full B adult and anything childish is frowned upon. Things like coloured nails ffs. I’ve concluded that common and happy might be something to aspire to.

It's just something to make stuck up people feel better about themselves surely. Who gives a fuck what other people think of how you look or dress.

I think the reality is, however you perceive yourself, some people will consider you posh whilst others will consider you common.
Having lived here since I was a child that’s all I’ve worked out about class in the UK. No one agrees on anything, many people will argue about what is/ isn’t posh… and a good number are completely deluded.

What are the 5 things ?

Absolutely. Literally everything fun, bright sparkly, funny, entertaining, impulsive spontaneous, expressive, passionate, indulgent or outside of the norm is common by someone's definition. Being common is infinitely more enjoyable than the discreet, dry as dust, dull as ditchwater ' alternative.
I love it me!

I love being common, I’m common and rich, it’s a fun combo and pisses off the poshos.

I'm common as muck but suppose I live a quite middle class life now, where I live, partners job etc
There is some snobbery around where we live from neighbours but I couldnt care less.

Define fun?

I'm definitely common (live in a council house which a lot of Mumsnetters would be horrified about) and have been told my whole life I need to lighten up and have more fun.

I'm naturally very quiet and introverted and the fact that my fun was sitting playing board games with my family last night or reading books means I have often been put down by people who think I should be out partying.

Your post sounds like reverse snobbery to me, we should all be more accepting towards each other.

I remember a front page Daily Fail article chastising Meghan for wearing coloured nail varnish when Royals should be wearing neutral tones and thought it was ridiculous, I don't think people outside the aristocracy really care about that but will look down on people who go to nail bars and have highly decorated nails.

Just do what you enjoy as long as it’s not hurting or reasonably annoying anyone else.

I was constantly dubbed “posh” at school then went I got to university and got in with the public school set who thought anyone that went to state school was basically a chav - so you basically can’t win!

I'm common as muck and I love my life. I laugh every single day, I wear what I want and I LOVE crocs and dress for comfort. I am heavily tattoed, overweight, swear like a trooper and can be considered brazen and gobby. I have what's considered to be one of the worst accents in the country too. What I love best though is that people that don't know me often make some very sweeping assumptions based on all that superficial stuff and are very shocked when they hear that I have 3 degrees and vast knowledge bank based on some incredibly obscure subjects. I can hold my own with absolutely anybody in a conversation, no matter what it is about and "upper class" women often hate it, it really unsettles them as they can't fit me into any one neat little box.

Well to quote Anna Wintour

Never fear being vulgar—just boring, middle class, or dull.

Oh God anyone who actually uses these terms without irony is a moron whose opinions don’t count.
Life is far too short to worry about other people’s opinions of your aesthetic. Particularly if it’s based on their subjective interpretation of the class system
Do what makes you happy, crack on and don’t give it a second thought.

I'm perceived as posh, although labels like 'common' and 'posh' are obviously a bit ridiculous. I don't give a shit what anyone else is, as long as they're kind with a decent moral compass.

Unfortunately, there are insufferable, judgmental arseholes desperate to stick the boot in, wherever you look in life.

One thing I will say is that I have never ever in any place I've lived in my life come across anywhere as obsessed with class as I have in the UK. It's something of a national kink. Also among threads on Mumsnet which will definitely get to multiple pages include sahp/wohp and most certainly class. It's just bizarre.

What defines common?

I’d want to be common and rich! That sounds like the winning combo to me!

I'm posh and poor, and it pisses off nobody at all. Sigh.

Being common is infinitely more enjoyable than the discreet, dry as dust, dull as ditchwater ' alternative

I'd think that dull was not posh at all, though. I don't think I have any dull friends. They might paint their nails in various colours, but they'd certainly never go to a nail bar. That would be a bit like going to a tanning parlour or wearing clothes that advertise some brand or other.

Love this. May get it framed

I live in the country surrounded by people who are often either posh or common, but in a country way (a whole other way of young women talking about their sex lives amongst other things...) and tbh the people I think who have the least fun of all is the suburban liberal middle class. The ones who are so careful to express the most "acceptable" opinion on anything and who get worked up about tiny things that don't really matter, showing off their liberal -woke credentials.

I think trying to be a posh is dull

I don’t think inherently posh people are dull, the ones I know are vivacious and don’t give a shit about shopping at B&M, they love going to grotty bars etc and aren’t very judgemental at all.

@Wouldloveanother you've nailed it with B&M. You can't beat a bit of B&M. Or a grotty bar, come to think of it. Also agree with @AchatAVendre about boring woke liberals.

Boring and dull are synonyms. She's repeating herself there. And she IS middle class and boring herself.

I'm so jealous! I bet your hot tubs enormous! 😂

To be honest, I think you should stop reading shit on Facebook and go and have some fun.
I'm considered quite 'posh' but couldn't care less what colour you nails are, or likely any of the other shit on the click bait you were reading.
Rather than claiming posh or common is better or worse than the other just do your own thing and stop worrying about what everyone else is doing.

Excellent summary 🤣