So I have a three month old, she's usually a very content baby but is currently going through the sleep regression. We went from sleeping through the night, maybe waking once for a feed to waking every 2 hours. I am shattered as he has been working full time 6 days a week during her sleep regression weeks. We have an agreement that as he has a long commute by car and I'm breastfeeding (she still can't take a bottle no matter how hard I try!) that I will get up at night with her while he sleeps.
Well today marks the first day of a week long holiday for him, meaning he doesn't have to be up!
Yippee I thought as that meant I would have some help overnight (I was wrong). She's woken every two hours, at one point I was up for two hours trying to get her to go to sleep at 2am and again now have been up for at least an hour rocking her trying to get her to sleep.
My partner has slept through the night mainly, only picking her up when she cries as I've gone to wash my hands after changing her nappy, then very quickly handing her back and going back to sleep. He woke up at 5:30 with us this morning, went on his phone for a bit then went back to sleep again. I even said to him, I find it a bit unfair that I have to be up all night while you can sleep when you don't have work the next day. He just shrugged, turned around and went back to sleep.
Anyway, I'm losing my marbles with sleep deprivation, was looking forward to a week of having only half the work load and being able to catch up on some sleep but it's not looking likely..
He has been this since she was born mainly, and I've had multiple chats about how I find it hard to do it all and nothing ever seems to change. He also is finding it hard to settle her at the moment, so just hands her to me as it's the quickest and less painful way for both of us to calm her down making it easy for him to not have to do anything.
AIBU to expect my partner to help me during the night when he doesn't have to go to work?