Not sure if I should put my notice in

[AmberPepper]

I'm a regular poster but have name changed for this because some people at work know I post on here.

I'm currently working two jobs. One in fast food, averages about 20h/week. Second job is as a housekeeper for a private home. Just started that in the last couple of months. Averages 18h/week. I also have a MA, graduated last year as a mature student.

I've worked in the fast food job for about ten years. I'm starting to really dislike it - sick of lazy, rude and nasty customers. I was called a four eyed cunt tonight because a customer had to wait ten minutes for his food. It's a long time but the place was extremely busy. I'm getting more and more anxious- to the point it's having physical effects - about going in and usually reach a point halfway through my shift where I just want to go home. Since I had Covid, I'm also finding the shifts physically difficult - I do eight hours as a min, usually nine and I'm exhausted by the time I go home. I just don't want to do it anymore.

Second job is much nicer - work for a lovely family, get treated extremely well and I can see myself being happy there for a long time.

I just don't know what to do for the best - my heart says chuck the fast food job and just keep on the housekeeper job which is physically much easier. But my head says that I'd be daft to give up a secure job, with good benefits. Money wise, I can live on one wage so I can't even use that as a deciding factor.

Not really sure why I'm posting, just needed to get it down I think. I've just finished another shift and I'm just so done. Was thinking of leaving the fast food job, having the summer with my kids, then seriously starting to apply for graduate jobs in September.

Bumping. I'd really love some input on this please. I genuinely don't know what to do for the best!

The fast food job sounds miserable and not doing you any good at all. Would they give you a career break? (Ie unpaid for a fixed amount of time?)

Sounds like you need out and some time to reassess. We only get one life and you've got qualifications and a plan.

I understand why you’re upset but why not give yourself some more time to think about it. You don’t have to make a decision immediately. It’s a difficult decision to make and one only you can make. Just think it through without taking immediate action, maybe make a list of pros and cons. And bear in mind the spiralling costs of day to day living. Your housekeeper job sounds brilliant and one you really enjoy. The other one a lot less so and not helped by ignorant and stupid morons having a go at you.
Sometimes just knowing a change of job is being considered can make all the difference in being able to bear a less than satisfactory situation.

If you don't need the money and you could get work elsewhere if you wanted to I don't know why you'd even consider staying!

You’ve got qualifications and bags of experience, no idea why you would consider staying at the fast food place!

I'd give up the fast food job. There are so many jobs like that available at the mo, I'm sure you could find something similar if you needed to in a pinch.

Some things to reflect on:
What are you worried about happening if you leave? Losing private health insurance? But will you need it if you're not in that job?
If it's a mistake, would you apply again or look everywhere else?
If you don't need the money, what could you do with the extra time?

I think given your circumstances and the fact that this fast food joint job is taking its toll on your health/emotional well being, it’s a no-brained!

if you stick as housekeeper and have the time you want to spend with the kids, you could find another second job elsewhere that suits you.

fwiw, I think you should be honest about how the abuse has affected you when you resign.

What did you go to university for? If the answer is to work in a particular field, and that's not related to fast food, you should leave now. The sooner you get into your preferred area, the better

Give up the fast food job. If you regret it, the turnover is such that they (or somewhere equivalent) will have you back very quickly. The housekeeper job with a good family is much harder to come by.

Ditch the fast food job. You have done that for 10 years- time to move on. Sounds like the cons are starting to outweigh the pros.

Keep the other jib and maybe you can replace the fast food job with something else?

Thank you all!

Leaving the fast food job makes me nervous, probably because I've done it for so long and it has been my main source of income for the past ten years. I also like most of the people who I work with, and I have this weird guilt thing going on when I think about leaving. My partner has been calling it stockhom syndrome!

My degrees are in English - I got a first in my undergrad and a distinction in my MA.

Life is too short to be miserable doing something that makes you upset, unhappy and physically unwell since being ill. Change is scary but if you can afford to leave the job that makes you unhappy, do it! Choose to be happy!

Seems like a no-brainer to me. ditch the job that makes you miserable.

Drop the fast food job.

The only reasons to work at all:

1. money


2. self worth, independence and enjoyment

you’ve already said you don’t need the money from fast food to survive. Also, you enjoy the houskeeping job. It seems a no-brainer to me.

Yes, the benefits may be good in the fast food job - but what are you comparing it to?
In the UK there is free(ish) healthcare within reason, pensions can be transferred and any holiday would have to tie in with holiday from other job anyway.

if you can afford it, leave the fast food job. Concentrate your spare time on yourself or gaining experience to match your education.

I know it’s easy for me to say as a stranger - especially as I’m a non risk taker myself. But the times I have found myself having to find another job/take a risk they have generally worked out for the best (or at least gave me valuable experience).

I was stuck in a job for 20 years just for the benefits. When my hand was finally forced life seemed to work out better. There were some ups and downs but I don’t regret it.

you’ve got to be a little selfish in the job world. Friends will understand.

your decision obviously, but I would leave the fast food job in an instance