AIBU to run away

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I’m so over ‘D’H, yet another weekend he’s spent drinking drinking being no company and generally pissing me off.

We have no DC (failed ivf x2), and I’m so close to thinking I could just leave, with no real ties.

If we sold the house I’d have enough to buy a little house or a flat, I could even take a year sabbatical from work and disappear off travelling for a year, although I’m early 40s so would that be weird??

I just feel like I could start my life all over again.

Go for it

Do it.

Seriously.

There is nothing sadder than a life half lived.

Honestly do it! Step away from tje negativity. Travel and be kind to yourself then when you're ready start afresh x

Do it.

This isn’t a rehearsal. This is it. Life. don’t waste it.

It sounds like the relationship has run its course. I would leave. Dont run away...
You may need to plan things

Go for it...

Thanks for this wake up call/reminder, I needed it

@Molly876 possible NC fail

When did you finish your last cycle of IVF? I ask because a failed cycle of IVF can be very emotionally difficult. I would make any big decision immediately after.

Do it, life is short, no regrets.

Do it! Seize joy, you only get one life!!

Three years ago, we’ve discussed adoption but I just don’t think it’s right for me, or for where our relationship is at.

DH says all the right things but doesn’t act on them when it comes to the concept of adoption and I think ultimately everything would fall to me.

Definitely!! You're getting nothing out of this life, so start a new one!!

Why would you not leave ?

his drinking is too much for you, you have no ties together, yes but a flat tent it out, go travelling

why would any of that be weird ?

Sorry you're feeling this way. Sounds like you're unappreciated and need to make some changes. There's no reason why you shouldn't leave and travel around the world - although that might not fix everything. I would suggest a few counselling sessions to get your thoughts clear and talk it through in a non-judgemental setting.

You deserve to be happy and do not have to accept a mediocre relationship.

I'm sorry about your IVF struggles - been there and it's so damn tough. Be kind to yourself.

Good luck

Life is too short to stay with someone so selfish

Easy for us to say leave but in all honesty I'm glad I'm no longer with my selfish ex

Do it! I'm sorry you're going through this, but at least you have a chance to do something different with your life. Good luck in whatever you decide OP.

I'm so sorry the ivf hasn't worked.

I think you should go for it! Life is too short. A sabbatical and travelling sounds amazing!

Life is short - do it

Leave. Travel, do what you want to do and feel how it feels to be free. No eggshells to walk on, nothing to keep hidden from family, friends etc.. Living with an alcoholic is hell, it’s always bad but it can get worse and worse.
Leave and then go for your half of the property etc.. Where would you like to travel?

I'm sorry for you that the ivf didn't work but really not best place to bring a child into with him. Leave him as you said, take the time off, money and travel! You are still young and putting yourself out into the world and all its possibilities will be amazing. You could find a good kind partner and who knows when you are in a happy relaxed space a baby may come along. But if not at least a brighter future than where you are now

I am not saying this for sympathy but...my husband recently died at the age of 57 without having done what he wanted to do. His death taught me that life is short and precious, too short and precious to put off doing those crazy things like a gap year in your 40s. Go for it.

Absolutely do it.

This. You should most definitely do it.

It will be the best decision of your life!

Think about how you would feel in 5 years time if you stayed.