To not want to spend every weekend together as a family?

[TeenyDancer]

Husband thinks I am.

I'm happy to spend every weekend doing things with my dc but sometimes husband doesn't want to do certain things and he expects us not too either.

For example most weekends we do dc hobbies on a Saturday and Sunday will be a family day out such as park/picnic/bowling/cinema.

Next weekend dc has a party on Sunday so I've said I will take dc and husband can do whatever. He's not happy and said as he's not invited we should go to the cinema instead. He thinks dc will enjoy cinema more and we can all go together.

I've said no and dc is looking forward to the party so were going.

Now husband is in a strop because he has nothing to do on 'his' weekend. Says I have ruined his plans and apparently I expect him to work all week and have no downtime at the weekend.

I assumed me taking the dc out for the day would give him a break and free him up to do whatever.

This often happens if i try to do things that are a bit different / he doesn't like.

So,aibu to do something with dc that doesn't include husband or not?

If your kid has been invited to a party your DH is being frankly ridiculous in having a strop…

If your kid has been invited to a party your DH is being frankly ridiculous in throwing a strop…

Not unreasonable at all. If he can't make his own plans then that's his own fault. As if you'd expect a child to give up a party with their friends to go to the cinema!
You've given him plenty of notice, just stick to your plans and let him get on with it.

He sounds very draining.

It's not your job or that of your DC to occupy his time.

He’s being a selfish pathetic dickhead: “wahhhhh I’m not invited to the kids party so my kid can’t go!” Tell him to grow up or fuck off.

Wrf? Your husband thinks your child shouldn't be allowed to go to a party because it will ruin his weekend? What a ridiculous, childish attitude! He is being totally and utterly and frankly bafflingly unreasonable.

Are you going as chaperone or have you been invited?

If chaperone, send your DH along with DC and have a few hours for yourself

Suggest he takes DC to the party and you have the down time. You child shouldn't miss out because dad doesn't have a social life. You DH needs to embrace the free time or find a hobby.

Perfect!! DH gets to take DC to the party and you get time to yourself...That is my favourite weekend time

No, this isn’t normal or healthy! Grown adults, even parents can have down time away from their kids.
I am a competitive swimmer and have competitions on average once per month, at weekends. Rarely take kids unless they ask to come as it’s so boring for them, hot and stuffy. So that’s my alone time, and I repay the favour another weekend and DH can go and play tennis with his friends then have some drinks while I do something with kids. Then sometimes we do things together. We are not smothering each other and everyone is happy.

Will you marry me??? 😂

Seriously this is the opposite of the problems that are usually posted. Of course YANBU

I find this so weird! Normally one of us taking the dc to a party would be a treat for the parent left with free time to do as they please.

Just get dad to take him?

Sounds like he wants to...