To ask for a handhold

[Yumyumcakes]

sorry Posting for traffic, but I need a handhold, i need a little strength, my marriage is over and I need to leave, dh had another outburst today, he dressed dd (nearly 3) in shorts and t shirt and socks pulled up to her calves in pissing down rain, I told him it was daft because she’s going to be cold. All hell broke loose, he started raving and ranting, calling me names, picked up his suitcase packed his stuff called a taxi, said bye to the kids (nearly 3 and 6 months) and walked out. Came back half an hr later. But the impact of the raving and ranting, dd became hyper and running around, I’d only describe it as frantic ,clearly emotionally distressed.

i have no one, smp so not rolling in it, can’t afford mortgage alone. But life isn’t meant to be like this, the impact on that poor little girl, seeing how it impacted her then and there the raving and ranting. I just want to be happy, but I guess no one would ever want me again, but It doesn’t really matter does it as long as they’re ok.

just need a bit of strength and a handhold to know the marriage needs to end

So sorry you are going through this. What an arsehole for traumatizing your dd with the whole charade only to return. You are right in that this needs to end. Have you looked into what you are entitled to? He sounds abusive as well and you and dc need to get away from him. Do you have any family nearby that you could go to for at least the weekend?

He needs to leave and stay away, what a horrible thing for your daughter to witness. That kind of behaviour is not ok and you deserve better.

I’ve got literally no one. That’s what makes it even sadder, there is no one in the world (aside from my kids) that cares about me. It’s so painfully lonely. I’m not entitled to anything not until a divorce actually would go through and then, his family are awful, i think his mother hurt our dd as she’s terrified of her. If we split, I can’t protect her from his family, it’s so fucked up.