Confused

[Curlyredhair97]

I am due to see somebody tomorrow. We have plans and they were confirmed yesterday. I messaged him this morning and no response yet but he has read it. Aibu to think tomorrow will not be going ahead?

Is it a date?

Thank you. I will wait it out

@19lottie82 it is yes

Hhmmm I’d wait and see if he gets back to you. If he doesn’t then that’s pretty shitty behaviour and you’ve dodged a bullet!

What did you message him? Something urgent? Lots of people work during the day on a week day. I think 18:00 is a bit premature to worry about being “on read”.

What did you message him? Something urgent? Lots of people work during the
day on a week day. I think 18:00 is a bit
premature to worry about being “on read”.

the OP stated she messaged him to confirm their date for tomorrow.

I think that’s pretty rude. Sending a reply takes what, ten seconds? And people do get breaks at work.

If the plans were already confirmed yesterday, why did you message to confirm them again this morning?

@19lottie82 am I reading it wrong?
I think OP is saying that they confirmed the plans already, yesterday. That’s why I asked what she messaged this morning, and if it was urgent. If it was just general chat pre date, then I don’t think it’s rude not to have replied yet.

I WFH and have my phone next to me all day, I still leave plenty of people on read until the end of the day. I’m not rude, I just don’t treat messages as things I have to reply to the instant they come through. Sometimes I’m in a work headspace, other times I don’t want to get drawn into conversation until I’m relaxed at the end of the day. I work flexibly so breaks wouldn’t make a difference to that.

Sorry you can't get much reassurance. Is the date in the day or evening? If it's early tomorrow then yes really they should confirm. Set yourself a mental cut-off time for when you stop bothering with this person. They are already showing lameness