Best for kids?

[Minalima]

Is it best for kids to have a mum and dad who stay together regardless of happiness or compatibility or better for them to be apart? In which scenario do you think kids would thrive most?

Better to have them apart engaging in mutually respectful coparenting.

When people say they’re staying together for the kids a lot of the time they mean they’re staying together or one is tolerating the other for the house, the lifestyle, the social status, or through fear of being alone.

Children know what’s going on far more than their parents like to think. They’re watching an unhappy example of an adult relationship - their model for all adult relationships - either thinking it looks shit or thinking it’s normal and expecting the same for themselves.

This is based is just based on a few studies I have read but yes, according to the little research that has been done on this subject UNLESS the family environment is toxic or abusive for the kids it is best if the parents stay together. So theoretically if you can be civil and provide a pleasant and safe environment then staying together is the best for the kids.

No right answer here. Best thing my parents ever did for me was separating. Worst thing my parents ever did for my brother was separating. Best thing my parents did for themselves was separating. No-one ends a relationship unless they have to. Sometimes it's the only way and you just have to get on as best you can.

This is a hard one. It’s statically best for children to have parents who are together and married. Less better to have parents together but unmarried. And worse to have parents who have separated. But it’s FAR worse to have parents together who are abusive or unhappy. It depends on the situation