To start refusing to pick up the DSes clothes from the floor

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Today they wanted their school uniforms. I pointed to teh heaps on the floor and said "There they are". Ds1 started whingeing that they were dirty and creased.
SO i said yes they probably are, but unless they fold them up on the bed so I can have a look at them, or put them in the laundry baskiet for washing,them I am going to refuse to pick them up.
So they are both going off to school with trousers covered in mud and food and sweatshirts covered in food

So, AIBU

I was

Mine don't notice dirt on their clothes so would never put them in the washing machine. I know children who would put everything in the machine even if it was spotless.

We do - tops (inc tshirts and school shirts )and underwear - wear once straight in basket or machine when taken off.
Trousers and jumpers check with me unless it is really obvious or Friday.

Also they all inc DH put their own washing away.

I have a system (I have to have a system or nothing will get done)
I wash it if it is in the basket.
I dry it.
If it needs ironing I will iron it. I only iron once a fortnight, we dont have a lot.
I sort sock and pants and fold stuff. Put stuff on hangers and make piles for everybody.
Then I call them and leave them too it.

dd1 is nearly 4 yrs and hasn't managed to get through a day without getting dirty

Lizzie- that's my gauge of a day well spent for an under 10 yr old! The muddier and dirtier the better.

DD who is 13 went to school today with dirty clothes on, she had to get them out of the wash bin, for some unknown reason she didn't put her uniform to wash until Sunday afternoon, when we had already done the washing etc. She got up this morning demanding her clothes, I told her I didn't know where they were (which was truthful) then she told me when she had put them to wash. I then put a darks on for her, but she knows it will not be dry tomorrow, so she has to wear dirty clothes tomorrow as well!

DH thinks she should do her own washing and ironing because she is so lax! I think she will just wear dirty unironed cloths. In fact not sure what I think, DD will be 14 in May!

PS, we normally have done some washing between Sunday and Tuesday but due to the other 2 DDs being in a show, we were too busy! Sp I have frantically been catching up with the washing today!

My ds1 thinks im really horrible by making him sort his own washing out because some of his friend's parents seem to wait on them hand and foot.

We now have a new rule whereas if he puts any clothes in the wash bucket that is still clean ie not been worn at all, then he goes to bed 10mins earlier for each item. So far its worked wonders lol

LOL! My mum still brags that she stopped washing and ironing her children's clothes not long after we started high school, including my brother

Therefore, YANBU

My stepsons are 10 and 12.

We decorated and arranged their bedroom such that hanging up clothes and putting them in the wash basked would be as easy as possible. They each have a "Fussball" row of hooks (Conran Shop) to hang t-shirts, hoodies and jeans off, and share a metal shoe rack (Ikea) and an open clothes basket for dirty laundry, that is in their room.

We have no problems at all with clothes on the floor.

Pebblemum - your rules seem to be very effective. Going to try them. I have DS1 who will be 11 in June and DS2 who was 8 a couple of months ago.

By now they should know my routine and which day of the week we are on. Same trousers and sweatshirt (unless muddy) for Mon/Tue/Wed and then clean for Thur/Fri. Polo shirts, socks and undies changed every day. So why do they insist on leaving clothes screwed up on the floor just as they have stepped out of them?

Missnevermind and pebble what great examples. Going to try!

I always put my kids clean clothes away but today I found DS1's wardrobe all mixed up so I just plonked the clothes on top. He can sort it out. I rotate the clothes so they don't just wear the same clothes all the time but DS1 always seems to want the top in the middle or bottom of the pile and then messes the rest up. As long as he looks okay in his uniform I am not bothered about home clothes.

But we don't have school uniform. It's an utter pain. Every day a big tried on pile of clothes on the floor.