To think he's being totally unfair on the children and on me too?

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My ex husband is a waste of skin. We split 4 years ago now and it's always been a struggle to get him to see our three children. But to give him his dues, he was seeing them overnight once a week, even if it did involve lots of flexibility on my part and the odd threat of the CMS thrown in.
For the first two years I took no maintenance off him. I just wanted him to continue to try to have a relationship with the kids, and I knew that if I asked him for money it would create issues. He only really seems to care about money and himself.
A year ago he moved half an hour away from our home town to be with his new girlfriend. He still came to get the kids once a week at this point, even though it was blatantly under sufferance.
Then I moved half an hour away too shortly after to be with my partner. Consequently we're an hour apart by car.
Since I moved he will not see the kids at all. Not unless I deliver them to his door or do half of the driving on drop off and collection. I don't see why I should, but I'm willing to be told IAU.
If he's seeing them one day a week why should I spend an hour after school to drive them half way, and then get up the next day at 6.30 to go and collect them? He says I'm totally unreasonable.
What would you do? Am I out of order?

Stop trying to force a feckless Dad to see his kids. The kids might be upset in the short term but they will see him for what he is. You can't make him care.

And claim CMS your children deserve it.

YANBU. You've done more than enough to try to facilitate a relationship. Just go to CMS and be done with it.

Two separate issues. He has them one night, you have them six, therefore he should be paying you 5 days Cms per fortnight..

Then you will be able to afford to do half the driving, since you moved half the distance away. 🙂

Why are you forcing him to see the DC when he clearly doesn’t want to ? My exh was the same especially when a new woman came along . After trying to sort out contact I gave up and left it up to him . At one point he went over a year without seeing them and he was living 15 minutes away .
You can’t force someone to parent .

And claim CM - it’s for your DC !!

Cms.

Yabu to appreciate he has them 1 night.

Spend the money on dc instead of putting them through a forced relationship..

You’ve done enough, stop trying to facilitate this, it’s on him.

Go to CMS, get what you’re entitled to and know that this is him being his utterly useless self if he doesn’t have a relationship with his kids.

"Hi Ex - I've never tried to stop you from seeing the children, and I don't intend to stop you from seeing them now, but travelling to see them is something you need to arrange yourself. It is up to you whether you think seeing your children is worth an hour's drive each week and of course I will respect your decision either way. My only request is that the children have certainty and stability and know what amount of contact with you they can expect in future."

Why are you forcing a relationship that he’s uninterested in?

Claim via CMS and leave it at that.

Sounds like the same cuntish variety as my ex. Stop dropping the kids. I deeply regret not claiming CMS for 4 years. The fucker has decided to pay 17 quid a week (whilst being worth ££££).