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Detention/request off school

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AbreathofFrenchair · 29/06/2022 13:31

DC has been given detention for incomplete homework. Was large A3 sheet with 15 question and answer boxes. Left 1 empty. Homework was set last Friday, due in Monday and after school Friday, he had 1 hour after school before leaving to go on cub camp till Sunday.

Anyway, he did the detention (30 mins) Monday and has another detention tonight (30 mins) as he didn't finish the last box as they wouldn't allow it in class or detention. I agree, he could have found time.

Today I've received a phone call from his head of year, requesting that for his best interests, that he is withdrawn from all of his outside school activities as they are hindering his school work and as he is going into year 10, incomplete homework is unacceptable.

I've refused and the school have said they will allow me time to reconsider and withdraw before they take it further as matter of concern. Not sure how they will take it further?

For reference, this is his 3rd detention in 3 years for incomplete homework, including 1 where homework wasnt handed in as he was off school with covid.

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balalake · 29/06/2022 18:50

Incidentally, would the Head of Year say the same thing if talking to a child's dad. Probably, but if you asked the question, would the said head of year back down if he thought a complaint of discrimination could follow.

Trudij123 · 29/06/2022 18:58

Wow. How have you kept so calm with them to now? I’d have lost it at the first contact.

“take it further? Bring it on…..”

as for if they ask if you’ve had time to reconsider - good old Nick Fury has the perfect answer “ I recognise that the committee has made a decision, but given it’s a stupid-ass decision I have elected to ignore it”

your son sounds awesome!

reshetima · 29/06/2022 19:37

"Take it further". Nasty threat. What's he going to do? Send you for a telling off from the head teacher?

AbreathofFrenchair · 29/06/2022 20:02

motogirl · 29/06/2022 17:43

Did your son say something to the hoy about being tired from his clubs or using them as excuse, was he really dopey at school on the Monday for instance? It seams very extreme to suggest he withdraw from clubs so I'm wondering if there's more cause for concern other than just the homework.

One other thought, is the world jamboree in term time, are they not approving because it means missing school in his gcse years? My dd had a week off in year 10 to go on a European tour with an orchestra and school were not keen until I showed them the press coverage of how this was the prize for winning an international competition and she was the only year 10 going (most were 6th form) suddenly they wanted it on their bragging page!

He could very well have been tired Monday morning, he was up till 2am Sunday morning them awake at 730am.

Jamboree is 1-12 August next year so no school will be missed

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VivaDixie · 29/06/2022 20:13

I know how hard it is to get into the WSJ. DS tried out for it and didn't get through. Neither did his friend which really surprised me as his friend is a top class scout. So for that your son is obviously an extremely well rounded lad. Well done to your DS 🙂 The school should be shouting from the rooftops that they have such a capable lad.

Just another voice to say that the school are bang out of order. Get everything in writing and keep up the good work DS. He is obviously a bright lad and a real asset to the Scouting organisation

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