To ask, if you wanted to have children and never did, for whatever reason, how has your life turned out?

[CounsellorTroi]

Do you still feel sad about it? I wanted to have children and had loads of IVF. Now at 61, asking myself if I feel sad at not being a mother at this time of my life, the answer is honestly no.

That brings me some hope. I'm 41, and still sobbing when I think about it for more than a few seconds. No IVF for us, we can't adopt (before those people arrive....) and we've had to accept this is the end of trying. I've had three rounds of counselling, starting CBT again and I'm still not great.

I had a dream I was pregnant the other night. Woke up and cried. Happens a lot.

I'm so sorry @RedCarsGoFaster

That sounds so hard 💐

@RedCarsGoFaster I used to get those dreams too. Believe me it does get better 💐

I'm so sorry. ❤

Sending love to you @RedCarsGoFaster

we tried for over 10 years and there was so much heartache, loss and trauma over the years. I am in my 40s now and a few years ago I came to accept that I wouldn’t have children and I couldn’t put my body through anymore. I struggled with poor mental health for a while and it hasn’t been easy but I’m at a point now where I am happy- really happy with my life.
I had lost myself in trying so hard to have kids and it’s been a joy to find myself again. Someone asked me the other day if I felt sad about it but I honestly don’t anymore.

Thanks all, but it's far from just me in this boat. Lots of us struggle with learning to live a life in a way we didn't expect.

The worst part is that if I were to leave my husband, I could get pregnant. DH is infertile not me, so I think that affects a lot of things too.