Demanding 16 month old- please help

[Northernlass13]

Posting on here for a bit of help!
so I have a couple of kids but my youngest who is 16 months old can be a nightmare. I love her to pieces but I feel like it’s mentally destroying me. (I know that sounds harsh)
even from birth she has been so difficult to handle. She had really bad colic which lasted a good 7 months. Nothing seemed to help and when I spoke to my hv, she said it would pass. She also hates everyone and won’t let anyone hold her. to make matters worse, she hates going anywhere or doing anything.
I take her to a play gym, swimming, park and she just screams in my face. She’s not crying but just screaming at me. It’s so bad people stare at me.

So I’ve tried everything to help-
i ware her in a sling, play with her, read to her. We have a good night time routine and she sleeps for 10 hours with a nap in the day.
Tried to leave her with family but it’s that bad, no one will look after her and my partner won’t help either.
she eats well too and there’s no signs of any developmental delays
im questioning myself as a parent.
it’s from the moment she wakes up until bed
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please help

I should also say as soon as I pick her up, she smiles! She’s just sooooo loud and demanding! Has anyone else had this?

God that sounds awful.

What does she enjoy?

@Northernlass13 That sounds stressful and exhausting. Does she scream all day at home? Or is it only when you take her out?

You said she won’t settle with anyone but you, how is she with her siblings, her dad?

My DD was like this. It was utterly overwhelming. When I spoke to other parents about it, they sort of agreed and say that being a mum is hard. But then I would see their kids playing with toys (my DD never played with toys - only with me, no matter what I tried) or lie still on a changing mat (this never happened again once she learned how to roll) and lots of other things. She was utterly obsessed with me. Only I could settle her.
I then had another kids who was much, much more chilled and does things like play with toys, lie still, follow instructions (as much as a toddlers do anyway!). I've realised that some babies or toddlers really are harder work than others.
But my DD has turned out to be a happy, confident, funny and very sociable little girl. She is full of beans and brilliant to be around. Your DD will get there in the end. You're just doing the hard yards now.

I don't know if this is linked, but my ds had extremely bad colic and then reflux and he turned out exactly like this. He was a very high needs, needed alot of attention baby. But he was a poor sleeper as well. He was also extremely restless during the day, we eventually put him into nursery at 17 months. It was life changing for us, he settled in so well and became so much less clingy. I'm not if this is even helpful to you but this was my experience. I feel your pain. My ds was so similar.

Thanks for the replies! She loves her sister and plays with her! I think I just needed a vent as sometimes it’s so hard! I love her so much and I feel awful.
this morning was one of those mornings! Having two toddlers, two lots of night feeds, working full time, running a house and no help... just got to me a little!
it does just get on top on me as my other toddler is quiet.
I think I just wasn’t prepared for their different temperaments. (Which I’m glad they are different) you just feel like you’re failing as a parent when one child isn’t happy. People pass comments all the time because she’s so loud and I feel so self conscious. she loves me singing to her so I do for hours and hours a day.
I think reading other people’s stories helps as I know I’m not alone.
thank you xxx

The thing she loves most is being on the sofa with a blanket relaxing!!! Maybe she s a home bird?!? Lol xxx

You could be describing my DD as a toddler (apart for the sleeping 10 hours part). I don't remember when it got easier exactly but it did, she is 5 now and honestly the easiest, sweetest child. I know that isn't mich comfort when you are in the thick of it but hang in there.