So I grew up being friends with this little boy and going on days out together etc (my mum and his aunt were good friends). They moved a bit further away so we didn’t go places with them anymore. When I was 15 he added me on Facebook and we got chatting. He was really funny and had some of the best conversation of anyone (still to this day) I’ve ever met. For years on and off we’d phone each other for hours at a time. He was my best friend. We’d both see other people but would still have time to chat on the phone to each other. There was some sort of attraction there but I actually preferred us as friends to anything more but was at that age where everyone was getting boyfriends and I felt pressure from other people so ended up sleeping with him after a night out 🙄 I wish that hadn’t happened now but it’s just one of those things. We still continued to talk for another few years until I met my now fiancé when we lost all contact.
I’m now getting married in October, my life is everything I could have wished for. I sort of forgot about him in a way. I forgot how funny he was and how great it was to be friends with him. I randomly bumped into him in a bar last weekend, probably 6 years after we last spoke and we had a very brief conversation. It was like we were right back to being 15 again and talking about life but now suddenly I’m 30 and have this whole adult life going on that he knows nothing about. I kind of wanted to just press pause on it all to be able to have another chat with him. He jokingly said he’d see me in 10 years and went on his way, I get the impression he’s single but didn’t ask (as I didn’t want it to seem like I wanted to know - really makes no difference whether he is or not). I haven’t been able to stop thinking about it since. It is purely in a ‘friends’ way because I have no attraction to him but just really don’t want to go 10 years without speaking to him ☹️ But if I was to reach out in some way what would a friendship with a guy look like without it appearing at all suspicious? 🤦🏼♀️ I looked up where he worked and almost wanted to send him a wedding invite with a card saying I’d love it if we could be friends but is it weird if he came to my wedding? We always said we would invite each other.
I know the easiest and least complicated thing to do is just move on with my life but I really feel like I don’t want to never speak to him again ☹️ Help!