New relationship

[Alwayscrying]

Long story short.
I left my partner and father of my children of near on 20 years.
I unexpectedly fell in love with someone else (same sex relationship) , untill i met this person i dont think id realised how unhappy id grown to be and took a huge leap of faith to live a happier life.
My ex moved out and understandably feels resentful and hurt and that's made things difficult in communicating, however we have managed and our 2 children 8 and 12 see him regularly (even if its not as much as they or i would like..but that's another story!)
It's not been plain sailing but I have never felt so me. I'm off antidepressants and I love living alone with my girls.
However my eldest has recently told me she doesn't like my new partner and it's left me feeling torn.
Part of me thinks maybe i made the jump to soon and should be alone till my children r older, but my new partner is everything I've ever wanted.
AITA for wanting this new person in my life?

How long ago did your ex move out, how long have you been with your new partner and how far into the new relationship was it before your kids met the new partner? (So many questions 🤓)

Thats amazing you have come off your anti depressants!!

Have you asked her why to see if she has valid reason?

It’s important to make her feel she is listened to and any issues looked into if needed. But she could just be disliking your partner because she’s unhappy from the break up/broken home.

Also, just to add - there is nothing at all wrong with wanting to have a new partner in your life.
I'm just pondering why your eldest doesn't like them...

So my ex moved out last August as soon as i told him there was omeone else and there were feelings involved.
I'd never been in a same sex relationship before this so it took me by suprise just as much as everyone else.
Because she was a female friend before I fell for her my children had already met her and hung out with her as mummy's friend (and had even commented how much happier I was whenever I was with her compared to daddy and that I should leave daddy because they had never seen me so happy and they enjoyed it)

So it's been nearly a year.

We don't live together, me and the girls have stayed where we r and she has a large house (which they both have said they r desperate to live in bevause they get their own rooms 🙄☺️)
But she stays most weekends and I have the week with the girls alone.

We have been on holiday together and the girls have had so many more happy experiences.

Upon asking my daughter why, she said she doesn't know really, but she sometimes doesn't know how to read her
Mood and that she isn't used to me being loved (😭💔 ) and someone cuddling me and caring
But my daughter also doesn't want my attention alot of the time I try to give her my attention during the week 🤷‍♀️