To have a singles holiday in late 50's?

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I have recently come out of a long relationship, am a bit raw and wounded but I know it was the right thing to do. I have had the all clear after a battle with breast cancer last year.

I've never done it before but I've got it into my head to take off on a last minute holiday and lie by a pool on my own.

I'm a bit scared, I've never done this before, so am I being unreasonable to do a Shirley Valentine?

I think you should just do it! Invest some time in yourself. Do what you want, when you want. Sounds blissful!

I think you deserve it, go, enjoy, you will be fine.

I’m late 50s went on many solo holidays before my son arrived, looking forward to it again now he’s 18 and I can go off on my own

Do it, but please do a bit of research re keeping yourself safe when travelling alone. Hope you have a lovely time.

I go on solo holidays all the time. Am 50 and married for yonks. You should; it will be a nice treat after your rough time.

I've never dared before but the thought of lying by a pool, and having a dip, just blissful. I'll be a bit scared but I don't drink so I'll never be out of control which is good. So where is the best place to look for last minute deals?

Go for it. When you said singles holiday I thought you meant like club 18-30 (if that still exists). What you mean is go on holiday on your own. Of course you can.

What are you scared of?

Yes … What are you scared of?

Being targetted as a single woman by thieves or ne'er do wells, sound silly really as it could just as easily happen here. I'm find with the travelling part that's not new. What if I'm bored, feel isolated, can't drop around to a mates.

But...... if I don't try I'll never know and I want the sunbed and a swimming pool so badly......................

OP's just extricating herself from a truly shitty relationship. (See other thread.)

I think you should plan something you want to do, OP, but maybe not too adventurous to start with! Sometimes the planning is a lot of fun in itself tbh.

Do it. It’s great. And something I e been doing since I was in my mid 50’s.

you won’t look back. In fact you’ll feel like blooming superwoman.

Go for it! My top tip would be to go to an adult only hotel or spa, or at least a resort that doesn't attract millions of screaming kids.

I think you should do something your ex hated. Historical walks, yoga, spa? You won't be bored. Take books! Or podcasts.

Honestly, there’s been a real shortage of thieves and ne’er do wells on my travels.

And as for mates? Just take plenty to read and tune into your local radio station when away if you’re needing a bit of familiarity for a wee while.

I'm 52 and I've done it many times. Barcelona, Roquetas de mar, Valencia, Cadiz, Vletnam, Agadir... those are some of the places where I Felt very safe

Or you could go to Italy: Florence, Pisa, Bologna...all just as safe as any city here

You could go on a holiday with a company like Solos or Exodus, where there are people to eat dinner with etc, but you can also do your own thing and lie by a pool on your own if that's what you want to do.

I was thinking around Palma Mallorca would be nice for this

Book an all-inclusive and adults-only resort in the sun. No need to leave the resort. Just enjoy lounging and having someone else doing the cooking and cleaning. Bring books and if you have Spotify or something similar, download some podcasts and music before you go.

I'm older than you and I've been doing it for years. Have a great time.

If you go in a short cruise you will find that many people go on their own, very friendly, uou can talk to people if you want or chill on your own if you don't.

Thus far, first completely unanimous vote I've seen on AIBU.

Of course YANBU. I'm a few years younger than you, but have been going on solo holidays for decades and plan to continue doing so as long as world events and my finances allow. Go for it!

As I've said above, I've been travelling as a single woman for decades, sometimes to ostensibly 'dodgy' places. I've never had any serious problems.

As for missing your mates, as a single woman you might find yourself, like Shirley Valentine, fending off the well meaning but annoying Dougie and Jeanette from Manchester types, who think that as a woman alone you need 'rescuing' with their scintillating conversation. Or you could, as suggested above, go on a group tour so that you can have the 'best of both worlds'. Company when you want it, but 'alone time' when you want it too.

Lots of options!

Hell yes. You'll have a great time.