My 4 year old has started deliberately weeing in the house

[Prettyinpeony]

He’s been fully toilet trained since Christmas. We’ve had the odd accident, which is obviously not a big deal.
He still wears a pull up at night time.

He’s recently (last couple of weeks) started getting his willy out and peeing all over the carpet or sofa on purpose, then laughing.

There are no new changes or disruptions that may have caused anxiety in his life that I can think of.
He uses the toilet at pre school, even pooing and never has accidents there.

Has anyone got any advice?

What are the consequences when he does it?

@tiredanddangerous

I took him to the toilet, told him this is where we go for a wee or poo and got him to help me clean up the mess.

If he's deliberately peeing in the house like this, laughing, doing it repeatedly etc then it's not a toilet training incident, it's a behavioural incident - you should treat it as such. How do you usually discipline him for misbehaving? Taking him to the toilet and explaining where to pee isn't disciplining him - he already knows that, he's toilet trained and this isn't an accident. Treat it the same way you'd treat hitting or screaming or breaking things on purpose... He's just exploiting a loophole because he's discovered that he can misbehave in this way without getting the same consequences.

I'd also do a star chart, keep it for good behaving generally. And do a star in the morning and afternoon.

I'd be making him help to clean it up! You really do need to make it clear that this is completely unacceptable behaviour - this deserves whatever your harshest form of punishment for him is (taking away a favourite toy, early bedtime etc.).

The first time this happened would have been one of the rare occasions I shout and it would have been a very good shout at why on earth he thought he could do that followed by him cleaning it up (natural consequence) followed by a punishment

As others have said, this needs to be followed by a punishment.
At 4 years old he knows perfectly well it isn't the done thing. He's a bit big to be wearing nappies at night too - have you tried no drinks after dinner?

He needs a firm telling off, not a wishy washy taking him to the toilet as he knows this already. Make him clean it up, take away a toy or something and a firm telling off. He is being naughty.

He needs to get properly into trouble for this.

Make him clear it up, time out, loss of toys etc. he needs a stern consequence for this.

Night time dryness is totally hormonal and if he's not dry at night yet that's fine.

He's 4, assuming no additional needs this would be a proper telling off and removal of privileges type incident for me.

If he loves pre-school I'd be telling he can't go if he behaves like that.

Mine too! I'm livid, just found this thread and appreciate it is an old one. He was doing it a few months back but we thought he had stopped, now it's summer holidays the floodgates are open again (literally).

Did you solve it OP?