nhs site "Grasp the tick (with tweezers) as close to the skin as possible. Slowly pull upwards, taking care not to squeeze or crush the tick. Dispose of it when you have removed it. Clean the bite with antiseptic or soap and water."
what to expect has this - specifically for small children
"First, use a warm, wet cotton ball.
Soak a cotton ball in warm, soapy water and let it sit on your child's skin for 30 seconds. When you remove the ball, the tick will usually come with it.
If that doesn't work, remove the entire tick with tweezers.
Grasp the tick firmly at its head or mouth (near your child’s skin), and pull firmly and steadily until it lets go. Do not jerk or twist the tweezers while removing a tick, or you may come away with just the tick’s body. If that does happen, don't worry as the rest will fall out in time. Just be sure to get your child tested for Lyme disease."
this is what the cdc website says this
"How to remove a tick
Use clean, fine-tipped tweezers to grasp the tick as close to the skin's surface as possible.
Pull upward with steady, even pressure. ...
After removing the tick, thoroughly clean the bite area and your hands with rubbing alcohol or soap and water.
Never crush a tick with your fingers."
"Avoid folklore remedies such as “painting” the tick with nail polish or petroleum jelly, or using heat to make the tick detach from the skin. Your goal is to remove the tick as quickly as possible–not waiting for it to detach."