Photos of Baby on Social Media

[Lbhughes85]

We communicated our wishes for no photos of our baby on SM early on during my pregnancy. Although, I use SM myself, my SO doesn't, and we agreed on the decision to leave all photos/announcements of the baby off SM until she's at the age where she can consent.

Everyone has respected our decision up until recently (baby is now one month). My mum, who is a prolific oversharer on FB, posted a two photos without our consent on FB but had drawn a heart over the baby's face and then another with her back facing. I know our baby's face isn't in the photos, but it still annoyed me as we made our wishes explicitly clear. She seems to have semi-complied with our wishes by not showing her face, but we'd just rather nothing on there at all. Am I being to precious seeing as she blocked out her face or is it reasonable to bring this up again with her?

Grandparents like to share photos of their grandkids. I think covering the face is respecting your wishes? Nobody who doesn't know the child would recognise them from that

I didn’t put my babies/kids on SM, moreso I was always too busy to use it than out of some principle. Identifiable kids I see the issue, but babies? I know parents think their babies are unique but really most are very generic in looks and not really identifiable to anyone other than parents/doting grandparents so can’t see the angst.

@GoldenSpiral

sorry I completely missed that bit!!

Stop being so precious for goodness sake

Jesus wept, fucking ridiculous.

I don't think it's a big deal

I wouldn't go too far with the 'my baby, my rules' thing or you may find everyone you adopt that attitude with finds life easier just letting you keep your baby entirely to yourself.

We don't post our kids on social media and refuse all consent for photos etc.

I'd be ok with someone posting a group shot with my kids faces covered or from behind BUT only if they checked with me first.

Your fine to ask the photo to be removed. Consent to photography and social media is a hill I'm prepared to die on for my kids.

I would be annoyed too... (in fact, my SIL posted a couple of photos we'd sent her of our DC on Facebook and I wasn't happy and asked her to remove them)
I appreciate she's not shown their face, but if you've asked people not to put photos online, then they shouldn't do it.

Yeah this is all a bit much OP.
PFB???

I get where you're coming from. We have never shared our daughters face online as like you, just isn't what we want and would like her to have some sort of consent when she's old enough.

Thankfully, that has been respected and if people share things we are happy if her face isn't showing.

So I personally would have gone mad if her face was showing, but if its covered I'd probably find it okay but would have appreciated knowing in advance.

I know this is a heavily divided topic, but your child, your rules on this.

I don't post photo's of my children on SM either and friends and family have always respected my decision.

If they did the scenario you mentioned, it probably would niggle me a little but I don't think enough to be overly concerned about it as long as their face was completely unrecognisable but I have not been put in this position to know what my thoughts would be.

When your child is of school age, if you don't give consent to such as Twitter, the kids faces are usually blocked out with a smiley face so this maybe something you will need to mention to school when filling out the consent forms.