describe someone that is desperate (dating)

[emmie847]

Dating

To you, maybe... Not to anyone else.

If they ask you over to their house for the first date, I'd say they are desperate.

Any talk of being in love in the first few weeks is desperate.

Well rag sex is having sex on your period, never heard it to just mean having sex.

So you’re saying someone who has sex within the first three months is desperate? Please tell me I’ve misunderstood you because that’s an awful thing to say.

Pardon me for the old fashioned three month rule

When was the three month rule a thing, I’ve heard of three dates not three months, that seems quite a long time to expect people to not have sex.

I think @Drunkandalone has a suitably pertinent user name 🤣 Although 'rudeandalone' might also be a good choice 👍

There is someone who sends me cards still even though I last saw him 2 years ago. I think he's a bit desperate. I'm mildly afraid that he will kick off at some point tbh.

Someone who tries to arrange the next date half way through the first one

@Drunkandalone were you drunk and alone when you wrote this?

On the other hand plenty seem to believe in love at first sight, I’ve read often on here of people meeting and marrying within a very short time, “stayed over at his on first date and never left” that sort of thing.

Nope. My username is tongue-in-cheek if you know what that means

God, waiting three months for a shag!? Shagged my partner on 3rd date, not because of a rule but because of circumstances. Live together very happily now. He also: changed his clothes style, bought me expensive gifts and took me away. Because he was trying to impress and court me. It was lovely.

Neither of us were desperate and both had others interested but we were very impressed by each other from the beginning. Still are 🤷‍♀️

On the other hand plenty seem to believe in love at first sight, I’ve read often on here of people meeting and marrying within a very short time, “stayed over at his on first date and never left” that sort of thing.

As much as I love hearing those stories, glad it works out for some, I do think they in the minority. Skeptical me 😂

Wish I hadn’t skim read any of that weirdness.

I shagged DH on the first date. 'Desperation' obviously worked out well for me since we've been married 14 years.

I’ve never believed in love at first sight. It’s a load of twee crap. You can’t love someone you don’t even know.

Can the Mumsnet admins put some sort of warning on the title of this thread so that unwary members can be forearmed with the knowledge that reading it is like pulling fucking teeth?

I tend to agree.

I've fallen down a hole on urban dictionary now

Someone who is very intense very quickly, beyond social norms, I would say (determinedly ignoring all the weirdness on the thread)...

Yup. Some sort of chemistry at first sight, definitely, but it's not love, or not as I'd define love.

I think the problem is that the word 'love' has too many possible meanings. We need more words for it.

Someone on the first date talking about introducing you to their parents, gave him another chance and I had to call the second date short because I read some awful news about a friend on the journey over, turned up in hysterics to tell him I had to immediately leave due to news and he said he would only let me leave if I promised to have dinner with him the following weekend, it was gross and desperate rather than threatening. I told him he was too much and never saw him again.

No, we just need to use it appropriately. It's a fine word, just misused by some.

Someone who texts you every morning and every evening saying “good morning beautiful” and “how was your day?” When you haven’t even met or spoken yet.