OK - so I don't mean mumbling to yourself when you forget something in Tesco.
My DH talks to himself a lot. And he says quite horrible things. Mainly "I hate myself" or "Stop it you idiot' and sometimes he will say "I love you Pantone". He will randomly say these things quietly when I'm in the room. When I leave the room, and he thinks i can't hear - he will often say much more, and much louder. Sometimes it's nonsense. Sometime he shouts.
He never does this in public or if friends/family are over. He never does it at work.
He does sometimes do it in front of the kids who are under 4 and therefore don't really pick up on it. Or at least they don't seem to.
He did go to therapy for a bit but stopped. He says he wishes he didn't do it but he's not interested at all in doing anything to make it stop. The only thing I get out of him when I talk to him about it 'I do it when I'm anxious or thinking about something bad'.
AIBU to think that this needs to be addressed? I worry about what it means, it might escalate, and also (and maybe I'm being horrible here) - I worry about the impact on the kids. I know we need to bring them up to be understanding but I would find it difficult as a young kid to have my dad shout 'i hate myself' in the kitchen.
Or does he maybe have a mild form of tourettes and i just need to accept that and support him & not expect it to change or be 'fixed'? I really hate it but maybe I'm being unsupportive.
He is a bit anxious about stuff (cost of living) and can be a bit worn down by things and seems to fall asleep on the sofa a lot but i wouldn't say he was very mentally unwell in other ways.