To take my daughter to my smear test?

[SuperSue77]

I have a smear test this evening and was discussing it with my 13 year old daughter. She was asking me about it and I suggested she come along and see what it’s like as I heard about women taking their daughters to demystify smears and show there is nothing to be worried about (pre covid though)
I haven’t asked the practice as only just thought about it, but just wondering if people thought it was an okay thing to do. I’m very chilled having smears so she won’t see me looking stressed or worried.

It's a request I've never had in 12 years of practice nursing. Smears aren't always straightforward, even if they have been previously.
We can struggle to see the cervix, have to fiddle about, swap and change equipment and you your position, and there can be visible bleeding. It doesn't always take a few seconds. Far from it.
It may well backfire on you tbh and it's not something I'd take my DD to at 13.

I can't think of anything more mortifying at 13. I guess it depends on your relationship though and your daughter's maturity, although I think at 13 it's.a bit much. I'd be more inclined to bring her at 17.

If she wanted to come at all.

Oh my goodness, I would be mortified if I was that age, yes it is extremely peculiar that she would want to...Some things are better private!

I think it’s fine. My daughter has been to a smear test with me (didn’t watch the business end!) as well as being with me when I’ve had blood taken, had injections etc. I think all of it helps to view these procedures as normal and not scary.

Just …weird sorry. Why on earth would you want her there and why would she want to be there?! Quite odd sorry. Wouldn’t ever occur to me to take my 13 year old Dd to my smear.

I think this is completely weird. Why would she a) need reassurance about it (just explain it to her in words) or b) want to see her mum having a medical exam?

I guess if you both want to it's fine, can't see any need myself.

Seems fine to me, I don't understand why people think this is weird

Where do you for your test that has appointments so late? Genuinely curious 😆
Also, yes why not take your daughter? It might mean there's a higher chance shell attend hers one day if she knows what happens during the appointment. So many women don't bother going!

Hell, no. No need to see all that.

But why is she so interested?? It’s a routine medical check that half of all adults need. Its an odd thing for a 13yo to be so enthralled with! I mean…she’ll have one soon enough! It’s not like she’ll even see anything of medical interest or anything…just her mum lying with legs akimbo chatting awkwardly to the nurse, same as always!

Never know. I had the HPV vaccines aged 13 and still have to go every 3 years 🙄 I was the second year to get them I believe but they haven't changed the rules

Great idea, I might steal it.

I remember being so nervous for my first smear. Would like my daughter to see it nothing.

I wouldn't do this. I just keep an open dialogue with my dds about my smears and mammograms so they know I go to everything offered and that I'm not worried.

I would just mention why I'm going to the doctors and answer any questions. I guess she'll be offered her HPV jab soon if she hasn't already so that's another opportunity for a discussion.

100% this.

No. No. No.

Why would you do this?

My first smear hurt like hell and the second was fairly painful too. After that they were fine.

If I'd witnessed my mum having a painless smear when I was 13, I'd have been even more shocked at the pain I felt when it was eventually my turn.

I think its weird and inappropriate .