To cancel martial art class after 5 years?

[springisaroundthecorner]

DS finished school last week and has been a pain since. Going out for hours and coming home late. He's already missed 2 different sport lessons that were paid for. One was £16 and the other £7. I warmed him this morning to get back on time to eat, get changed and go to his lesson at 6 today. He's not shown up again. The direct debit goes out soon and I don't want to pay another month if this is his attitude. It's a shame as he's got to a high belt !

#warned !

Can you dock the cost from his pocket money?

It's not even 4 yet and the class isn't til 6. I would give him more time. Surely half an hour to eat, 5 mins to get changed and however long it takes to get to the class? I would expect him home around 5 for a class at 6?

Does he even want to go any more? The fact that you've warned him and he's still not back kind of indicates he's not interested any more. I'd sit him down and have a proper conversation about it rather than just tell him you're cancelling it. If he wants to give up then fair enough

If he's not showing up I'd end it. Martial arts (any sport really) takes commitment, if he isn't committed it's a waste.

Do you have a holiday coming up for him? We can all benefit from a break now and then. it sounds like he's taking his own holiday with his pals now. I would tell him you'll ,keep the lessons open for him until school goes back. It's galling, but I would be concerned that if you push him,he'll just tell you to cancel them,while if you play it cool ,there's a chance that he might go back when school restarts.

Can you speak to instructor and ask if he can take a 3 month break or something

@Notagain76 that sounds like the best option. The next direct debit is on 1 July so I am messaging the instructor. Not wasting another month of money.I will see if he wants to go back in September when he starts college. I'm tired of him letting me down

Does he actually enjoy it as much you think he does? Maybe he's just bored with it and has been carrying on up to now because he thinks you want him to.

If he's just finished school and starts college in September, presumably he's just finished his GCSEs. If I was him, I don't think I'd be in the mood for any type of class at all in the week after my exams. Maybe he just wants to let his hair down and have a break from structured stuff and enjoy himself with his mates.

Just ask him if he wants to carry on with his class or not, and make it clear that you won't mind if he says no.

He is still not home so missed class again. It's disrespectful to us and to the instructor. He's also late back home again. Ignored all calls