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Birthday

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Yesicandothis · 27/06/2022 14:08

It was my birthday 10 days ago and unfortunately I tested positive for covid 2 days before 😫

I met someone about 6 months ago and he tested positive 2 days after me (so on my birthday).

He messaged me to say happy birthday on the day but did not get me a card or a present 😫 and I’m really upset about it. He had been thinking about it, he had told me a few times before he was stuck and didn’t know what to get me…

We saw each other at my house a few days after and he still had not got me anything… he explained he had been too poorly to go out and get me something / didn’t know what to get before and thought he would get me something small but then couldn’t. I can understand that and did not say anything.

But we are seeing each other tonight, and I know he has not planned anything special etc…

He has apologised about the no present thing, but I am bothered that he has not tried to make up for it.

I made a big effort for his birthday a few weeks ago and got him thing si had thought hard about, and spent about £150. The money doesn’t really matter, it is the lack of thought I am really upset about.

He is amazing in many ways, we get on so well and have a lot in common. He is thoughtful in other ways, but I am not sure what to make of this. I feel really connected to him, we talk a lot and understand each other, he brings a lot into my life.

I wish I could brush it away but I am finding it really difficult… am I being super sensitive and unreasonable?

OP posts:
Wellthatsjustswell · 27/06/2022 17:21

Some men are really rubbish at cards and gifts but you would think, as it’s so early in the relationship, he’d at least make an attempt to impress you.

There are enough threads on here from women upset that their DH hasn’t made an effort for their birthday/Christmas/Valentines/Mother’s day, I guess you need to decide if you are happy to carry on, and look forward to having to feel this way every celebration, or if you would end up feeling resentful.

Maybe see what tonight brings, maybe he’ll surprise you? If not tell him straight you were disappointed. If he says again that he was stuck and didn’t know what to get, tell him that a card at the very least least, and maybe a bunch of flowers, would have been better than nothing.

Wellthatsjustswell · 29/06/2022 12:08

How did the date go? @Yesicandothis

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