To be a bit unsure about friend's situation re housing and marriage

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A friend was married but then got very badly hurt by her husband and divorced after 2 years.
Fast forward a few years and she's met someone else who seems great for her. He proposed on her birthday a couple of months back and she seems very happy.
When asked about the wedding plans she said there are no plans really, they're just focusing on renovating their new house first, that that's their first priority.
I suppose I'm just concerned for her, I don't know if it's fully her decision.
Part of me thinks if someone really wanted to get married, you'd just go and do it at a registry, it doesn't need to cost a lot of money at all. I suppose I just don't want her to get strung along or hurt again.

Is she giving anything up to live with him? What's it costing her?

All i know is that it's a house they've bought together, and this is their first priority apparently. I don't think she's giving anything up as such, and maybe I'm just overthinking this, but just find it strange.
I'd be a bit gutted if i got engaged then wedding plans were put on the back burner

I'm engaged but our focus was getting a house sorted ( which was finally bought a few months ago) and now we're pregnant again. I want a big wedding as does my partner. It's our choice and has no impact on anyone else's life.
For clarity I own half our house and take no pay hit for mat leave so have never really understood this mumsnet obsession with being married.

As long as she owns half the house, I don't see the problem in this. Maybe she doesn't consider marriage much of a priority after her last one?

There's a cost of living crisis and they've chosen to prioritize where they spend their money. I don't find it odd at all....

This is silly. There is nothing wrong with them doing the house up.

You’re weirdly over invested in her relationship. Why would you assume she is anything but happy with the decisions she’s making for her life?
Plenty of people value financial security over getting married. Perhaps that was a lesson she learned after the breakdown of her first marriage.
Maybe they don’t want a quick registry office wedding. Renovating a house takes a lot of time and money, it seems sensible to do one big life event at a time.