I'm pretty sure IABU but I feel thoroughly horrible having found out third hand today that my XH, father to our kids is getting remarried. To the OW who is a dickhead mentalist.
The kids also found out crappily - one (early 20s, horribly anxious/depressed physically ill and can't stand his dad's new family so hasn't seen him for months and can't believe he's been dumped for steps-kids) texted late at night when I was asleep as an addendum to a 'we should go cycling together sometime... oh and by the way...'. His sibling was told by him (also texted he later found out but the phone was broken)
Poor friend who phoned today to check in with me to see how I was with the news after it was posted on socials as an announcement had no idea I (a) don't use socials and (b) have been blocked by XH on all channels. They felt awful being the one who told me then had to deal with my sniffs of inexplicable sadness.
AIBU to feel so by this news and how it was received. It's not anger. It's a weird confused disappointed, left out, poor kids etc.
Our life is infinitely happier without him as he was an angry narcissist and his secretive time with the OW only made him worse at home.
I'm sure a good nights sleep will help but I really am feeling completely miserable tearful and strangely unable to tell my best mates of the news.
Already feeling for my anxious kids wanting to attend an event which will be far from easy for them. But stubbornly feeling like I don't want to get involved in ferrying logistics.
No idea why he didn't sit down with kids and let them know or just phone.
It also would have been good for him to FYI me but as I say he always was a selfish dick....